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getting noticed..
Hey. I'm 15 almost 16, and I'm female. I get told by a lot of people that I'm pretty, but I don't seem to attract a lot of attention from guys. I'm VERY insecure and old fashioned in the sense that I don't make the first move, ever. Because I'm so insecure, I'm not outgoing when it comes to guys taht I find attractive. I can talk to them as friends, sure, but I would NEVER go up to a random guy and get his attention (by hitting on him or giving him my number or anything) I was wondering if there's anything I can do to make myself seem more interested without having to say anything..
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when getting a guy's attention or flirting with him, you don't even need to talk to him. just a brief eye contact and looking away or just a little smile usually does it. or just subtle things like wearing red (red is tested and men are attracted to women who wear red). simple things always work. then it's up to him to do the rest
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Oh trust me, I know exactly where you're coming from. The thought of hitting on a guy or asking him out seems so foreign to me; I know I'll probably never be that kind of person. I never pictured a boy expressing interest in me at all.
However, a few days ago, some boy asked me out. I tried to think of what I did differently that day, and it seems obvious now. Usually I'm pretty shy, but I was so much more /fun/ that day. I made conversation, I laughed, I suggested doing things, I talked. I don't think there's a 'trick' to getting boys to like you; not to use an old cliche, but be yourself. Just put yourself out there. Try not to smile along and go with the flow- do something! Good luck!
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The best thing to do is make eye contact and smile. If you appear friendly, guys will know that you're interested and having a good time talking to them. You don't have to be as bold as walking up to a guy that you don't know and giving him your phone number. I honestly don't think any of my girl friends have done that, and I know I haven't. But we've all had a lot of boyfriends. I don't think people really do things like that in life as much as they do in movies.
You really should just be yourself. Take a deep breath and try to clear your mind when you're talking with a guy that you find attractive. If you think too much, your mind will be somewhere else and you won't be able to focus on the guy. If you're not focused on the guy, he's not going to know that you're interested him. Like I said, be human, laugh when it's appropriate, and make eye contact. You could even throw a simple compliment in, "I like your shoes" or "You've got such a nice smile". Little things like that make the conversation go from one between just friends to one between potential boyfriends/girlfriends.
Good luck,
Darby(:
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