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Ex boyfriend coming back?
Okay so i went out with this boy for a year and a half and he broke up with me because we were fighting alot towards the end. No one including me saw this coming because he seemed so in love. I was very pathetic when we first broke up and just crushed(he was the only person i ever slept with and same with him). Anyways, now that it is summer i have done pretty good in staying away from him and even tried dating some other guys. One of the guys that my ex knew about emailed me the other day and was like "your ex requested to be my friend on facebook?". I thought this was really weird but tried not to read too much into it. Anyways, today he started texting me and wants to see a movie next saturday. Im very confused on what to do...he probably just wants to go as friends but i just dont know. I started making some friends back that i lost when me and him were dating and i really seem to be happy but i still miss him. I dont know if i should go back out with him if that is what he wants!! All my guy friends might look down on me and especially the ones that i went on dates with.. I dont want to loose my friends again because they are disappointed in me. HELP!
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well, iknow how you feel hun. so if you really aren't sure if he wants to get back to gether with you or not, ask him but not bodly just be like; well is this going to be as friends or a date? and if he says as just friends just go along with it until you figure out your feelings and if you want to give him another chance on letting him back into your life.
or if he says as a date just be like; well. im not really sure how i feel about that i mean we used to be in a realationship and all i don't know if i can be friends with you with all that happened in out past and then just be like i just have to think about things. & if your friends don't respect your choices on who you want to be with then there not really your true friends at all just remember that. & remember that its your choice on who you want to date and no one elses concern.
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I will say, you seem to be doing pretty good considering all that happened. And after a whole year and a half! But it doesnt matter what your friends want, or your other dates, your guyfriends, or even your ex. It matters mostly on what YOU want. He wasnt the victim here, you were. He dumped you abruptly without an explanation, and basically crushed you.
Just think for a minute; you miss him, that much is certain. But are you really willing to give your heart another chance with him? What if all this happens all over again? What then? Just go to the movie with him, and hear him out. If he seems sincere, try another date. Slowly, put the pieces of what used to be back together. Go on a few dates, talk, have fun, just do what makes you happy. Maybe he does feel bad about dumping you and wants to make amends by being your friend. There is nothing wrong with that, and proves that he is a decent guy on the inside. And if your friends are looking down on you for being happy, then they arent your friends.
Like I said, just do what feels right. If you think he deserves a second chance, give it to him. If you think you've been through enough and dont want to risk anything, then just be his friend. Either way, you're both content and happy with the way things are going in your lives. And your happiness is all that matters, in this case.
Good luck! :)
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