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Not affectionate
My boyfriend and I have been having issues lately. It's summer break and naturally we are seeing a lot less of eachother. I haven't seen him in over a week which is strange seeing as we usually see eachother every day. The problem is that I'm not taking it so badly. He thinks that I don't want to see him, but that's not it. I don't really like summer vacation because I feel like I'm kind of useless during it, but at the same time I'm an independent person. My boyfriend isn't exactly like that, he's a lot more affectionate you could say. I feel like there's all these things that couples are supposed to do and I just don't want to lose myself but it feels like I'm hurting him and this is hurting me too. I know this isn't much of a question but I just don't know what's wrong, we just both feel crappy about this and won't stop arguing about stupid things. :/
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Hey there,I understand what you mean my friend is the exact same way in relationships shes not very affectionate and hates the actual effort of a relationship yet when shes not in one she wants to be and when she is she cant be botherd its just something you have to get past.
what you need to do is stop concentrating on what couples are supposed to do and focus more on the two of you and what you want to do.
go out and just have do things that are fun together it doesnt mean you have to spend every minute together because we all do need time to ourselves explain to him that its not that you dont want to see him just sometimes you need to be on your own because thats the type of person you are.
dont worry about loosing yourself,doing things together with your boyfriend doesnt make you any less like the person you are.
you both have to put asside theese trivial things just arrange some days to do things like go to the movies the mall,beach, bowling etc push yourself to do this and put the effort in its not too much to ask and its not like it will be everyday,because its the only way itl work,you need to communicate and do things together not because you feel you have to but because you want to thats what it should be about,if you feel like your dragging yourself to do it and not having fun etc,then it might be time to rethink the relationship,
I hope I helped in any way and made some sense!
I hope I interuperated this right sorry if ive gotten it wrong =) Just like you said there wasnt an actual question.
anyway good luck!
Much <3
Jess [15/f]
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sometimes people's personalities aren't always the best match. I'm not going to say you should break up with him, every relationship is different. I would, though, look at your relationship, and decide if it is the best for you and your boyfriend. Everyone argues, but at your age, is this what you and him want? Also explain to him that you like the space, and you are not as affectionate as him. Nothing will get changed without everything laid out open on the table.
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