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THNXS!!
i totally agree THNXS!!! but she dosent really treat me llike a friend cause she drags me around like a puppy and more... she is always saying i am stupid @ times YET i put up with it because she can be nice @ ttimes 2!!! but i ALWAYS feel like she is trying to control me! and if i say simething like "i dont really want to walk i wanna rest here" because i just had gym and worked out. SHE RESPONDS BY SAYING "ohh come on you big baby! and stop whinning" BUt when i think about it that is just her personality @ times. AND I THINK that is why i never stand up for her SOMETIMES... i do stand up for her sometimes.
So does the way she treat me change the situation ?? IDK what do you think now??
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
Well, it really depends on you.
Does her doing that bother you to the point where you wouldn't want to be friends? Because you know if she finds out that you're telling people that you don't like her behind her back, she's not going to trust you anymore. She probably won't be your friend for a while either.
Like I said, there's a grey area. You don't necessarily have to take that confrontation if you don't want to. When someone at school asks why you like her, you could say, "You don't know her like I do, and I'm not going to talk about this."
That doesn't really leave them the option of bringing it up. You would be handling it maturely and standing up for her at the same time. It would be like saying, "I like her. I don't care if you don't. Now stop talking." Only it's put in much nicer terms, so you can avoid a fight or argument.
She shouldn't be dragging you around her calling you a big baby when you want to rest after gym, but is that really worth losing her completely? Instead of bottling up how you feel and letting it come out when someone else is talking about her behind her back, bring it up to her right then. Say, "Hey, I really don't like when you say stuff like that. I just had to run a bunch of gym, and I want to rest for a minute, if that's okay."
You would be firmly and directly saying that you would really appreciate it if she would stop saying things like that, but at the same time, you wouldn't be saying anything mean or hurtful. Plus, you would get your feelings out that, and she might stop acting like that. If she stops that, you'll actually want to stand up for her when someone is being mean behind her back.
Good luck,
Darby(:
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