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sucking at making moves on my girlfriend
13/m and no offence but please dont say i'm too young for a girlfriend ha ha
ok so i've been going out with this girl for about a week now and i cant even hold her hand without being nervous so i havent like walked with her while holding hands i'm afraid it will ruin our relationship and shes a great girl so i dont want to lose her so does anyone have any tips
btw we went to the movies the other night and i stuck my arm around her but even that was crazy haha i dont know whether its like things that happened with one of my girlfriends last year cause her and me and a few other friends went to a movie(this is a different girl) and i tried to stick my arm around her but then she just pulled it off her arm it was funny and everyone kept sayin i got rejected but still, funny
and also shes my first girlfriend this year...sad i know
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You guys are dating because you like eachother right?
Well show her that by at least holding her hand,
she shouldn't shy away - she likes you, you're her boyfriend - maybe that hasn't come into realization for you.
It can be pretty uncomfortable, but just gather up your feelings and hold her hand -
If she rejects you, confront her.
Don't be in a relationship with someone if you can't communicate very well.
Ask her what's the problem? Reassure you like her, and you'd like to show that to her :)
If you have a fear of rejection - ASK her "Can I Hold Your Hand",
and ask her alone, it's no buisness of your friends or anyone elses around you.
It can be pretty awkard, but it's so much better to get if off your chest, then you won't feel so uncomfortable next time.
Just go for it.....
and if she doesnt want to hold your hand, maybe she shouldn't be in a relationship if she can't commit and admit how she feels. You're mature enough to show how you feel, that's something in the future, girls will really value.
Good Luck,
Sage :)
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Don't worry about anxiety when it comes to making physical contact with your girlfriend: at your age (hell, for any guy without much experience), spending time with the opposite sex can be very uncomfortable. You'll find that every "first" of a relationship isn't as magical as you'd like it to be, but it comes with the terms of being young and awkward (which is unavoidable at 13)
That being said, it all gets easier as you get more comfortable with each other and as you get older.
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It is perfectly normal to want everything to be perfect. You seem like a person who wants to take their time and wants to do things just right. That is an excellant quality in a man, unfortunately most don't have it so feel very special :) I know your afraid of going to fast and losing her before the relationship even really began. Your so nervous because you really like her. The easiest transition into holding arms and stuff is by causally flirting with her. You are keeping her intersted and you are able to keep contact with her without worrying about going to fast. Example, teasing her, if you want her to see something; hurry up and grab her hand and pull her to the object so she can see it, if you want her to look at something behind her; put your hands on her shoulder and turn her around. These little things with ease your comfort zone and make you feel comfortable enough to go further. Unfortunately girls have a keen sense so if she senses that you are uncomfortable, she will be too.
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just go for it, if shes your girlfriend she's gonna want to hold your hand.
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