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I'm dating guys a lot older than me...
Okay, so I'm thirteen now.
Turned thirteen in April.
[Imma girl]
Before that [Birthday] I had been dating a couple of sixteen year old boys.
And my current boyfriend is sixteen.
Well, I was recently out with all of our friends, smoking and having fun.
And a friend of mine who was my age started hitting on me, and I laughed at him.
A boy five years older than me [18] hitted on me and later that night I was in his car doing bad things.
Yes, I am concerned that I cheated on my boyfriend, but not really the point of my question.
My real question would be,
If there was a reason [Meducal Condition maybe?]that I'm attracted to older guys or not.
I'm also not sure if it's just for an adreniline rush, 'cause I lovve doing bad things in the back of boys cars late at night.
And I'm desperate to find a reason. What I'm doing can legally be considered as rape and kidknapping.
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Do you have a good relationship with your father? Seems to me you are looking for a father figure, an older man who you can be close to and that need is being acted upon in unwholesome ways.
An 18 year old can go to jail for violating you. He's considered a sex offender, a pedophile, and he knows it.
You do need therapy and you need self control or you will develop a pattern throughout your life of promiscuous sex. The fact that you're having sex at 13 is a major concern. Children don't have sex and shouldn't have sex. Talk to an adult who can help you.
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I don't think there is an actual medical condition regarding liking older guys. To me, it sounds like a combination of things. You're probably not going to like these answers, but I would say it's a mix of; low self-esteem, not getting enough attention in your home, and the adrenaline rush that you get.
Think about those things. You already said that you get an adrenaline rush from it. Do you think you could be doing these things because it makes you feel good about yourself when guys want to be with you? Especially if they're older guys?
Do you feel like you get enough attention from your parents in your home? Do they ask you questions about your day and treat you well? Do you and your parents have good communication or do you feel like you don't really communicate well together at all? Do you fight with your parents a lot?
Just from my experience, I would say these things are probably what's causing your behavior. It's good that you know that what you're doing is wrong. But you need to take steps to stop doing it. At your age, you shouldn't really be doing 'bad things late at night in guys cars'. The guys that you're doing this with that are over 18 could go to prison for a long time.
You need to talk to an adult in your life that you trust. Tell them what's going on and how it makes you feel when you are with these guys. If you don't feel like you can talk to your parents, try to talk to a school counselor.
Since it may already be summer break where you are, there are other places you can call. If you need the numbers, inbox me and I'll help you out more.
Hope this helps,
Darby(:
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