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losing interest?
so lately, i've been questioning my relationship with my boyfriend. like, thinking if we should break up or something.. i don't know. it's not that i don't like him, i do and all... but it feels like i don't like him as much as i did before for some reason. like, 3 days ago, we had sex, for the first time. but then, afterwards, i felt closer to him. but then.... i don't know, it's just a feeling how it's not really a big deal, but kind of lost feelings in a way? if you know what i mean...
advice please!
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You should let your boyfriend know how you're feeling. It sounds like you guys aren't emotionally open or in tune with each other. If you get to the physical intimacy before the mental intimacy, it's easily understandable that some feelings you had for him would be lost in the process. If you really open yourselves up and communicate with each other, you'll likely start to feel interest in him again.
You should also plan a night out for just yourselves soon. If you go out to dinner, see a movie, then go back to one of your houses and just hang out for a while, it might re-spark some of those intimate mental feelings you had for him before.
Since you did just have sex with him for the first time three days ago, you might just be feeling overwhelmed. This is especially true if it was your first time having sex at all. It doesn't feel like a big deal to you now that it's gone. But you need to understand that if it wasn't a big deal to you, your feelings wouldn't have changed.
You probably just need to have a heart-to-heart conversation with your boyfriend. Once you get your feelings out and he does the same, you'll be able to feel that mental connection. Mental connections are much stronger than physical ones in most cases. If you start feeling that mental connection again, your interest in him will likely be renewed.
Hope this helps,
Darby(:
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