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Question Posted Saturday May 30 2009, 11:06 pm

This is long, please read it all, I need someone to actually listen to me.

Hey. I was always the girl who said, you can't fall in love as a teenager. I was against it, and even hated people who claimed they were.

The summer before 8th grade, I started talking to this guy, we'll call him "Bob". We innocently flirted, nothing much. In about septemer, still of 8th grade year, he started going out with his girlfriend, (we'll call her "Becky"). I wasn't too upset, I mean, him and I didn't even get serious. Then about two months later, he tried talking to me, more then a friend. I kept telling him to stop. More months passed, he still had his girlfriend. They'd been going out for about 8 months, i still tried to tell him no. Then about mid year of 8th grade, I starting flirting back. (Bob and Becky had sex a few times over this time period, crushed me, cause I starting liking him ALOT.) Then we just kept our relationship flirting over texting. Now i'm in 9th grade..and ever since december we've been REALLY serious, like we're in love, and we said we were in love before we ever hung out. (Is this possible?) He was about to leave her for me. So around mid March, "Becky" found out we'd been talking for more then half of their relationship. My life was at stake. She was PISSED, and of course I felt very guilty. But we only emotionally cheated, not saying it's right, but it's better then physical. So when she found out, she left him. He told me, baby now it's just me and you FOREVER. about a month later, he wasn't really texting me anymore. and i asked why..and he told me he was back with "Becky". MY heart broke. It was the worst feeling ever. Couldn't breathe. Didn't care if I didn't take another breath again. And when he finally told me, they'd been going out for 5 days already, why wait that long to tell a girl you "love"? So for the next two days we didn't talk. Which was so hard, because I usually talk to him from 6 a.m., til 10:30 p.m. ALL DAY EVERYDAY. no breaks. so my routine was gone. I HATED HIM. (yet still loved him..) The third day, I begged for him bag, even if he stayed with Becky. I needed him in my life. Even if I had to lower my worth, and standards, to be with someone who didn't love me enough to be with just me. Two weeks later, BECKY CHEATED ON BOB WITH HIS BEST FRIEND, (hypocrite much?) and she accused him of cheating with a Vanessa girl, and left him. This was in mid April. So since then it's been me and him. At first we never walked down the halls, cause Becky's friends harassed me. AND I HATED BEING HATED, so i have to be in love, why else would I go through all this trouble, right?? So for the last two weeks, we said hell with it, and went public! He meets me at my locker, kisses me in front of everyone, and tell people he loves me. And I feel the same. But somtimes, my feelings go crazy and one minute i love him, the next I don't feel any thing anymore. It's nothing he does..it's just my mind..is there a way I can stop that?? And last night, we went to my best friend's party, and it was our first party together, and it was amazing. he held me all night long, and when we dropped him off at his house, I started crying hysterically, cause I wont see him for two days. We were hugging, and he's like "bye wife, i love you." and "isaid i love you too," and tears started pouring down. And ever since last night, I know for sure I'm in love. Like I'm 15, but I wanna marry this boy. I've went through HELL AND BACK to get him, and if we end, it's all for nothing then..right? If you read this, thanks so much! :)


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laynemayhem answered Sunday May 31 2009, 12:45 am:
yes, teenagers can be in love. ive been with the same guy since i was 15 (im now 16) i wanted to marry him then, and i want to marry him now. yes, you sound like your in love.

and if you two end, it wasn't all for nothing. you still have great memories and can just remember everything that happened, and be happy that it happened. as my friend used to tell me, live in the moment. dont fret over what MIGHT happen, just be happy that what you want to happen is happening in the first place.

and dont be upset when you're apart. that might scare him a little, and he may think your obsessed with him and start to disappear. and when he does, it'll hurt all the more.

so like i said, just be happy that hes with you now. dont worry over the future, focus on the present. and ignore becky. shes a bitch. and i'll bet she feels the same way you did when he left you for her. thats why she gets her friends to bully you. ignore them, and just be happy with your man!

take care!

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m_howard_651 answered Sunday May 31 2009, 12:11 am:
wow. thats deep. first off. his ex is a bitch. (btw im a dude) i know i aint suppose to be talkin like that,"God forgive me" but wow. shes about like my ex who dumps me and starts dating and having sex with my best friend. but its w/e. well its good yall are finally together thats good. but i wanna warn u of something. don't dwell on this, but just keep it in mind. if he hurt you before there is always a chance he'll do it again. he may not. idk. time will tell. but just don't get to deep with this guy. keep in mind your 15, not 35. you have all your life yet to find love. so just be cautious is all i ask. but it's good you did find someone you like being around and all that. that is good. but my best advice for you right now. would be, watch how deep you get into the relationship with him, keep your feelings in mind, and his. need anything else. let me know.

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