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boyfriend bother
i went to a house party where i met this lad that i thought was hot.well we started getting with each other&we are now always with each other.he calls me his girlfriend&we class each other as going out&i really like him.but he already has a girlfriend.she dont know about me&that he is cheating on her with me.she is 3 months pregnant& he tells me he isn't going to leave her cause he dont want to lose the baby.i dont know what to do.he says he loves me&doesnt want to lose me but he also doesnt want to lose his girlfriend.am i doing the right thing staying with him being his affair?
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Of course you're not doing the right thing. Not only are you being the 'other' girl, but you're being the 'other' girl to a guy that's about to be a daddy.
Look at it this way: Where do you see your relationship going? Are you just going to hang around until the baby's born? What about after that? Are you going to hang out with him in the time that he's not with his child and girlfriend. There is no off time when you're the parent of a baby.
He has made it very clear to you that he doesn't want to break up with his girlfriend and that he simply is not going to.
Do you not feel like you deserve someone better than that? Don't you think that you deserve someone 100% devoted to you?
For your sake, his girlfriend's sake, and his child's sake- get out of this relationship.
It's the wrong thing to do, and you know that. If you didn't know that, the question would not have even come to your mind.
Get yourself someone that appreciates you enough to not have another girlfriend. Don't be back burner girl. Find someone committed to you, that loves you and no one else.
Of course, he's just as much to blame as you, but that isn't your concern. Just get out of his life, his girlfriend's life, and his baby's life. Even if his girlfriend doesn't know right now, she is sure to find out sooner or later. And since there is a baby involved, her anger level will be triple what it would be if it was just a relationship.
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Nope. You are doing the wrong thing.
You are being a second-class partner when you allow him to keep you secret.
You are helping him betray his girlfriend, which in the end will only hurt her more, and even worse, will hurt his child.
You are giving him a childish distraction from a NOT childish problem: The problem of how he is going to live as a father and what relationship he wants with the child's mother.
You are somehow buying into his weak lie about 'loosing' the kid. There is a thing called rights, and as the Dad, he has them. She can't take them away just 'cause they aren't togeather anymore. He's just being a chicken shit.
What you are doing is absolutely wrong and what's worse, everyone in this situation stands to get hurt, a lot. Cut him loose to deal with the adult issues he needs to face, and you can get back to being the person you are free to be.
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