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an unexpected farewell...hurt and confused
i truly liked this guy,"S", from this semester. in the beginning,he was quiet and didn't talk much, but as the semester progressed, he opened up, especially to me, about things like his hobbies, future goals, what he did this weekend and personal stuff.based on his reserved character, i thought b/c he reveals so much of himself to me, he may possibly like me.there are other details too but for the sake of keeping it short i won't write them out. nearing the end of the semester though it gets wierd b/c he asked to study with me alone, and that's when you exchange numbers to coordinate the time better,as well as other advantages *hint* *hint*,and it's an awkward moment and he says "well you have my email,hopefully you'll find me there." that day i ran into our study group friends and they came with me to study with S, but I saw S's face light up when he saw me regardless. and after finals when everyone had finished, we were all talking in a group, and he asks me if i'm done for the day, i said yes. then he says he has to go study(it's a friday), looks at me with a final "have a nice summer", and leaves. i'm crushed. i thought he liked me back.the more we talked, the more i found how much in common we have, and the more i grew attracted to his character.i can't even express how i've felt this past week since school ended.it's like all those talks we had evaporated with the beginning of summer. why would he bother talking and joking around with me so much if he didn't like me? i almost wish he hadn't-i wouldn't have known how great a guy he is.i don't want to make a move, i once asked a guy out and it was a disaster i'll never do it again, but i don't know what to do.i know i didn't do anything wrong, usually i can almost always find something i've done or said that was wrong or immature, but this time i can't.it's hard to consider moving on right now, but if anyone can help me out with what to do i'd really appreciate it. thank you for taking the time to read this.
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The first solution is YOU DID NOT DO ANYTHING WRONG! If you were true to yourself while speaking to him, then you were fine! Don't feel bad, anyone could feel hurt and confused over this situation.
I know it could be hard asking him out or confronting him on the situation, but if you really care about this situation enough, even though you were crushed that last time, it might help you to understand things a little bit more. I know it's hard to get over feelings of pain and rejection. No one like’s confronting those feelings! The thing is, rejection it apart of the romantic life. That's what makes acceptance such a great feeling! It might hurt you to hear that he doesn't like you, but maybe he does and he's too afraid to ask you. Maybe he's waiting for you to ask him out, because he seems like a shy guy. But I truly think you should speak to him. Don't ask him out, bluntly, just share your feelings. The only bad thing that can come out of it, is that you get reflected, but its better then torturing yourself by wondering.
But don't worry, I'm pretty sure that it will all work out for the best. :)
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