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marriage and sex
Is it normal to not enjoy sex at all? I am getting married but I do not really enjoy the sex. He uses condoms so could that possibly be why?! I enjoy oral but I am concered about the sex part.. is it normal? do condoms add less feeling?
Please help ease my mind
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No, it isn't normal. Sex should be a pleasurable and enjoyable thing. It could be the condom but it could also be a lack of communication with your' partner. Durring sex you need to talk to him and let him know what you want. It would also be a good idea to spend some time with your' body finding out your' hot spots. Getting to know where and how you like to be touched your' self can help you better guide your' partner when you when you are together.
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That could possibly be the reason. Another reason may be that you are not being vocal with your boyfriend. Lead him in the direction you want, tell him what you like, what you dislike. Be sure to let him know what feels good to you. That could help your sex life a lot.
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It's possible it could be the specific kind of condom you two have been using. They made special "thin" condoms and ribbed condoms to help things out if the woman has problems with orgasming from penetration.
Nine times out of ten, the problem is just that you--as well as many other women--do not get off with penetration alone and must have some sort of outer clitoral stimulation as well (oral sex typically provides this, which explains why that feels good). Many people simply cannot "get off" without having some stimulation on the outer bits. It's fairly normal nowadays.
Condom companies and sex toy makers have now created a special vibrating condom ring that can be used during sex. The vibrating gives the woman clitoral stimulation during the penetration.
Here is the Trojan vibrating ring (that is sold in MANY places, including your local Wal-Mart):
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If you take a look at the Trojan condoms website, you can view many different condoms they have on the market at the moment (including ultra-thin condoms, very sensitive, and ultra-ribbed (the Ecstacy):
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Trojan also makes a Naturalamb condom that is said to be pleasurable, especially for women who have problems with latex. Amazon has them under the wording: "Trojan Naturalamb Kling Tite Natural Skin Condoms Lubricated Non Latex"
Trojan is not the only condom brand that carries special vibrating rings, ribbed condoms, skyn condoms, ultra-thin, ultra-sensitive, ribbed condoms. You may also want to check out Lifestyles:
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Note that condoms are not 100% effective on preventing STD transmission and pregnancy. They're actually only about 85% effective on preventing pregnancy. Really. The claim of 97% is actually a clinical, laboratory study in which every possible good outcome happens so that they get the highest probability. Factors like lubrication, friction length, amount of friction, positioning, etc were simply not even taken into consideration. That doesn't exist in the real world.
Condoms also do not--NOT--protect against STD transmission. Yes, they prevent the sperm from coming through but other bodily fluids can actually slightly pass through the condom's pores and into your body. If that wasn't enough, the outer sexual areas of your body can also come in contact with the other person's genital region, leading to the possibility of sexual disease transmission--condom on or not!
Simply put, don't believe the crap that using condoms makes everything safe and fun.
The only safe sex is no sex. Make your you and your partner are screened regularly. It has been proved that diseases and viruses can hide in the body for YEARS before being detected. Yes, mutual masturbation (getting fingered, giving handjobs) and oral sex (male or female) also spreads disease just as effectively.
Yes, people can and are born with STDs. They do catch them at a very young age (even in infancy, sadly, while mother is changing a diaper even) and can live with a disease their entire life, thinking the symptoms are normal human things.
Tampons also play a part in the desensitization of the inner vaginal walls. If you are a tampon user then you may want to strongly rethink your usage of the products. Tampons do a lot of harm to the female body that we tend to overlook and since they have been around more and more women have been losing vital sensations in their womanly areas and having harder times producing enough natural lubrication to keep things feeling good and happy. Tampons simply do not make your body happy--ripping little bits of flesh out of the vagina at each usage, soaking up the natural body lubrication that is made, and leaving bits of chlorinated material being on your walls (which just has some flesh removed from them--open wound, anyone?!).
Sex can be a very tricky thing.
Many, many women have sex and NEVER in their entire lifetime actually enjoy it, orgasm, or have a "feel good" time. Only 25-30% of women orgasm regularly from vaginal penetration (penis in vagina sex) alone. This being said, there are fairly good chances you won't ever have sex that feels "amazing" or anything that you imagine it should be.
Do your best to keep your body healthy and simply don't expect miracles at any point. That's all.
If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me!
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