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18 f virgin that has 21 def not virgin bf
okay so my boyfriend and i have been having more hot make out sessions. he is really touchy feely kind of guy, that doesnt bother me, but he stops. its just that i know he wants to have sex but he hasn't talked to me about it. its been like 3 months and i mean he is 21 years old and he def is getting more frisky recently and he tells me that he really does care about me (he told me this wayyy before him being more frisky). we werent friends first, and that is a great thing because there is no weird friendship awckwardness happenings.
and even though im a virgin im use to the whole "lets go have sex" talk with my exs, they got denied sooo badly :P
i dont think he understands that im use to perverted guys and that actually makes me embarressed because he thinks im sooo naivee.
but the thing is that i dont mind losing my virginty to him, crazy right i dont love him yet but i know that i really do care about him.
its just with my exs there wasnt that much oomph to the relationship it was more like i care about about them more as a friend and with my boyfriend its different.
okay so my whole question is....
dun dun dunnn get ready for this!
how can i make him understand that he doesn't need to be shy around me and he needs to be more ummm more dominant in a way but not like the kinky way like leather whips and bondage but more in the "i am a man and you are my woman" kind of way.
and him being shy ends up making me shy and im not use to being shy.
thanks for listening to my rambling!
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Okay, I understand. Though first I just want to say, please wait to have sex until you love him! Sex is soo much better the first time when you're in love and you can remember it. Don't ever feel pressured and be strong, like you were with your past bfs! You'll end up regretting it if you have sex and realize it was a mistake and you didn't love him/he didn't love you.
But alright, about him being more masculine and straightforward with you.. the best way to approach this is to say it in an almost kidding way but also sexy.. like "You don't have to be shy with me.." and smile at him. I'm not exactly sure if you want him to be more dominant in general or more of a sexually dominant? (which i'm assuming) If you guys are comfortable around eachother, there shouldnt be a problem getting what you want here and since he's not a virgin. You can try "you don't have to be gentle" or "i want you to take advantage of me". If the sexy, almost kidding lines don't work.. you'll have to resort to being straightforward and saying that you like it when he's more dominant and that it turns you on.. it'll actually make him feel good! Good luck :]
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