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stepdad invaded my privacy!
15/f
My dad lives in florida. He moved down there a few months ago and took my brother with him. Me and him have been trying to get my mom to let me move down there with him but my mom's stubborn and selfish and would rather I stay here and be completly unhappy. I've tried talking to her face to face but she always breaks down in tears which I can't stand because it makes me feel guilty for wanting to be happy. So, I was talking to my dad over face book. I told him how mad I was at my stepdad for turning my brothers old room (I had fixed it up into a play room for my little sisters and put a lot of time into it) into his office. Well, my stepdad has a face book account too and he has added me to his "friends" list. My dad just called me and told me he got onto my account and read that message. Well, my stepdad told my mom and my mom emailed my dad and accused him of "brainwashing me" and "trying to turn me against her". I am seriously po'd. He had no reason to even suspect I was planning on moving down there due to my plan on acting fine and sucking up to my mom until I turn 16 and then breaking the news to her. I already didn't like the guy due to other things he's done, such as telling my dad that he could make sure us kids never got to see their dad again. I hate him. I don't hate anyone ever, but I really hate him. My mom ditches us kids at home ALL THE TIME to go on his motorcycle and they're always gone for hours. My dad is SUCH a better parent...and person for that matter. Plus the fact that my mom never even comes to ME whenever something like this happens and the subject of moving comes up. She always goes straight to my dad and yells at him, accusing him of "manipulating my young mind". WTF? I have a mind of my own... I just don't know what to do now. She hasn't brought it up to me and I don't think she will. Please help :(
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dude if iwas you i would totally take advantage of the fact that they leave for hours like totally invite mad people be a total bad ass. maybe your mom will hate how you act so much that she much rather give you to your dad. haha i know that sounds bad but just saying
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your stepdad seemes threatned by your dad because well i guess it could b because he was married to ur mum and had children with her thats something he doesnt have with her so he may feel jealous. your step dad mayb manipulating your mum aswell brainwashing her.just remember love is blind and that your mum will always defend her new husband.i think you should build up a case a strong one think hard about how you can make your mum agree with you moving in with your dad. justbe fair stern but also calm because we dont want tears. if she cries youl just have to be strong and look past the tears because ofcourse shes going to cry when her only grown daughter wants to leave her.she may feel like you love your dad more than her which will be hurtful for her.just tell her how unhappy you are and how you want a turn at bein g happy now how its not fair that shes happy and has what she wants why cant you for once have it your way?why cant you be happy with your dad like she is with her husband just tell her that youll miss her to death and that youll visit and keep intouch, that the distance between you two will even make your relationship stronger.tell her that you understand how shes feeling and why she wouldnt want you to leave but tll her that our bond will never change.you just miss your dad.beg her to stop keeping you away from your father because all you deserve to be happy as much as shes happy with that guy.just stay calm be sympathetic and have a puppy face on youll be ok she cant keep you forever.
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