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getting over a guy...
i need to get over my ex. we dated for 9 months and he was my first love. he broke up with me on sunday but said he wanted to hang out alot over the summer and maybe if that spark came and fate brought us together we would date again but theres a really small chance so he told me to not get my hopes up. however i still want to stay really good friends with him, and he does too and he says he loves me more than a friend but not enough to be in a relationship with (can anyone explain that?) so my questions are
A.) how do i get over him?
B.) is there possibly ANYTHING i can do to reproduce that spark over the summer and remind him why he fell for me in the first place? (we also met during the summer of last year and started dating towards the end of the summer)
C.) what does he mean when he says he loves me more than a friend but not enough to be in a relationship with (like a protective brother?)
thanks soo much.
16/f
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Wow, I completely agree with what NoCandy said. That basically covered all I was going to say.
I've been in the same situation before, so that's probably the best type of advice you can get.
Good Luck.
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A) I'm not sure how you get over him, but it does not involve hanging out with him all summer or trying to reproduce a spark. There's really no reason for you to wait around for him if he's not waiting around for you. I don't know if it's possible for the two of you to be friends. You can try. Occasionally, it does happen. But in order to remain friends, it has to be a situation where neither of you is bitter about the breakup.
B) There may or may not be anything you can do to reproduce said "spark". However, there's no point in trying if he doesn't want to. You don't want to try to drag him back into a relationship unwillingly. It'll only be bad in the end.
C)I don't mean for this to sound harsh, but my guess is that it means he wants you to wait around for him. It's quite possible that it means he does not want to date you, but doesn't want to see you date someone else. Perhaps he's not sure if he's making a mistake, and wants to make sure you'll be around if he changes his mind. That's just one theory, and I have no idea if it's anything close to right. If he actually SAID the "protective brother" thing, that is a little weird. That is kind of like saying he doesn't want to get back with you. If you say someone is like a sibling, that puts them "off limits".
A lot of this is just guesses, and may be incorrect. I only say it to give you some ideas. The only way you can really know is by talking to him more.
And about the prom thing. You should just do what he says. By that, I mean, if he says you're going as friends act like his friend. If he says differently, then you know you can act on that. That way, you're respecting him, and not crossing any boundaries. In that way, you're respecting yourself.
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okay, well i was once told that once a relationship was over, that maybe it just wasn't ment to be. But that can sometimes be wrong.
A.)To get over him, just accept that you are broken up and move on. Try and find someone else to be with.
B.)Well, what started the spark before? Think of what happened, and then try to make him remember.
C.)I think what he means is that maybe he just isn't ready to be in a relationship yet. Give him time, and maybe he will be ready again.
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