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So there's this girl. I've liked her for a little bit now and I'm pretty sure that she feels the same, or at least sure enough that I wouldn't have any second thoughts asking her out. Her age isn't important but she's younger than me and I don't think she's ever had a real boyfriend before.
The problem is that I'm graduating in a couple of months and going to college about an hour away for 8-9 months before I return home while she stays in high school.
I know I could probably have a relationship with her. I've thought about it but I'm really not sure if it's worth it or not. If we get into a relationship and it really works out and then I have to leave, we're both going to be heartbroken. I guess we could always try to make it work but being over an hour away in completely different environments doesn't bode well.
I just...I want to be happy. It seems like as time goes by common sense tells me that this won't work. And the thing is that each day I wait means that we'd have less time together and makes letting her go make more sense.
But I don't want to. I don't fall for very many people and when I do it's hard to let go. The fact that I know I could have her if I wanted to makes it even harder. I just don't know how to handle this.
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Honestly, it depends on the distance.
Over an hour away isn't shit. I used to live in Houston, you could live in the same city and be over an hour away. Two hours isn't much either, you can come back for day trips easily, or go get her for the weekend if she's allowed to get away.
Her age does matter. If she's a year younger and you're two hours or less away, I'd say why not. Its relatively easily maintainable. If she's two years or more behind you, and its more than two hours, honestly I'd say let it be.
One thing I will say, you don't have to rule anything out. If she likes you now, be her friend and she can like you later. If one of you wants to actively pursue it, you can.
But if shes as young as she seems, honestly it sucks being in college and having a truly high school aged innocent girlfriend.
I don't know, I hit college and the age of girls I'd date at the time cut off at 18. Dating girls who were younger just wasn't fun, I couldn't experience college and all the shit I got into with them, and quickly started finding girls I went to school with to be interested in.
Having that freedom was great.
And again, this doesn't have to be a final decision. You can be open to dating her down the line, when you're both older if the opportunity arises.
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