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long distance relationships
I'm a 17 year old senior in highschool. My boyfriend and Ihave known each other for 3 years and have been dating for as long, and we recently had sex for the first time. Pretty soon graduation is coming and then after that it's college. He's staying in Boston, but I'm going international for college, New Zealand. He's not worried that anything will change but I can't help but be worried that things will be stressed between us because I'm not going to be back for almost 8 months. We don't have any problems and I'm very much in love with him, I don't want to ever lose him. Is there anything I could do or not do so that our time apart won't hurt as much?
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Aww, I know how you feel.
You must, must, MUST keep in close contact. Call each other every day and talk as if you were right there next to each other. E-mail each other. Get an instant messenger so you can leave little "I love you"s. Write good old fashioned love letters to each other - I'm actually doing a study on how this can enhance romantic relationships and help relieve discord. Compare your school schedules and find times where you can just sit down, get on the phone, and talk. You can even do study sessions on the phone together if you have a similar subject. Invest in a pair of webcams so that you can see each other. That's probably the best thing you can do, but I dunno how much money you have.
You're absolutely right in thinking that things will be stressed between the two of you. He needs to be aware of this as well. You both need to acknowledge the distance and the stress it will undoubtedly put on your relationship, and adjust for it. The fact of the matter is that not being able to touch one another will be very, very difficult. If there's a connection other than physical - which, from the way it sounds, there is - you two will be fine. If not, you may have some problems. You especially cannot just pretend that there's no distance. The first step to fixing a problem is to be aware of it. =)
In summary, the best advice I can give you is to stay connected through whatever means you can.
I wish the two of you the best of luck. If you have any more questions, please don't hesitate to contact me. =)
-Siren
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