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Friends < Flashdrive? (It's long, so hang in there :D)
So a couple a weeks ago my friend "M." and I had a project that we were working on together. We were working at school and I had forgotten my flashdrive so she let me borrow hers. I kept/transported the flashdrive to and from school for two days until my portion of the project was done. We finished on the third day, but I had forgotten to bring it back to school. M. said it was ok and I should just bring it the next day. Well, as it turns out I got really bad food poisoning the next day which put me out of school until the weekend. So, that weekend I called her and said I'd bring it on Monday. She was a little pissed, but I really couldn't do anything about it because I *was* throwing up all over the place. TMI, sorry. So, that weekend an uncle that I was really close to committed suicide. On Monday my mother made me stay home from school because she's the only other one in the house and didn't want to be alone at this very sensitive time. Then, the next day (Tuesday), M. left for California for Spring break. After Spring break was over, I came to school on Monday but M. was still in Cali. The next day she came back but I had to go to my uncle's funeral which was out of state.
Ok, so now I wrote a random note to Facebook about names for a pet and M. commented it in a very blunt and angry way, telling me to call her. One of my other friends was talking to me on chat (she happens to be very good friends with M.) so I asked her if M. had said anything to her about me. She said that while I was gone, M. had been telling everyone that I was deliberately holding her flashdrive hostage and that I was being bitchy about it. She also said that her mother was really mad at me too, and let me tell you, M.'s mom is NOT someone that you want to mess around with. I was so confused because I have been nothing but nice about this and have even offered to bring it to her house (an offer that she declined). All my other friends realize that I am having a really hard time right now and that I'm sort of scatter-brained. I'm also really confused because M. is also really light, bright, and happy. She's an amazing friend.
I have no idea how to handle this and I am wondering if I am at fault. What do you think I should do so M. doesn't start valuing her flashdrive at a higher level than our friendship?
Thanks for all the advice!
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lol wow this is funny.
"M" is stupid.
and im sorry for that stuff that happened :[
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I would think this through first. On her flashdrive, does she have anything on it that is personal and she wouldn't want you to see? If you see any files on there or pictures that look private and she wouldn't want anyone to see, she could be concerned about that and her privacy. Is the project you guys were working on due soon? She could've been worried about completing the project and not having her flashdrive back in time to finish it. Group projects always cause mess and sress!
Alot has happened over the weeks to you. You were very sick and lost a family member. It happens and we can't control life. She was on a vacation too. The only thing you can do is to call her or talk to her somehow, one on one. Be mature and nice about it. Explain that things that were out of your control happened and you didn't mean to hurt her in anyway and didn't intend on keeping the flashdrive for all this time. Offer to bring it to her again. Tell her you value your friendship and wouldn't want something like this to ruin it. If you're honest with her and she's still mad about it, give her time to get over it. It's petty and she shouldn't be angry for too long. If she is, than SHE IS the problem.
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