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hes breaking my heart to pieces
16/f
me and my boyfriend had the most perfect relationship in the world. i mean EVERYTHING was just perfect. he lived next to me so i could always visit him. we could walk to the beach everyday and hang out there every night. our parents were frinds so we always got to see eachother. he was in 3 of my classes at school. we rode the same bus. etc. everything was just great. we have been going out for 6 months. but we had been best friends for 2 years. he told me everything and we were so close. i was hesitant to go out with him because he was a player and had alot of girls at the same time. but i trusted him because he always told me which girls he was with and he was very truthful to me while we were best friends. when we started going out we were so in love and nothing else seemed to matter. everything was amazing. we spent everyday together and texted whenever we couldnt be together. then i think maybe we fell out of the honeymoon stage and the real problems started coming. rumors that he was with other girls, him thinking i was trying to change for him, me being too clingy, him being an asshole. etc. we started fighting all the time. then he sed we needed a break. so we went on a break and ended up breaking up for good. i was so upset and he dodnt seem to care at all. he was being such an asshole to me. then he decided he wanted to make things work. but that he wasnt ready to date me again but he still loved me. so we still acted like we were dating and we werent getting with any other people. so everything was fine, then a few days later he said he couldnt take any of this anymore. it was so out of the blue because we were hanging out literally 5 minutes before he said that and everythig was fine. so we didnt talk for a few days, then he randomly called me a few days later and we acted like nothing had happened and we started talking again. let me just mention that he seems to have extreme moodswings. as in the week before we broke up he was saying that he loved me more than anything and was never going to let me go. well the past week he started short answering me and after i got mad that he didnt believe me about something now he wont talk to me at all. i told him that he treated me like shit and he just said oh. i dont know what i did but he started ignoring me. so after 2 days if not talking i confronted him about it today in a text convo because we couldnt see eachother. he was short answering me so i asked why and he said i duno. i asked wat he was mad about n he sed nuthin. i asked what was on his mind and he said something. so i asked what and he said stuff and he wouldnt tell me what. so i tried to talk to him but all he did was short answer me and say K and mhm. i was trying to get an answer out of him and why he wouldnt tell me what was going on but he wouldnt tell me. he jus said it was something to do with me but that i didnt do anything. i dont know if maybe he feels differently about me or something now. he also has started to not believe me about things people say. i dont know what has happened all of a sudden. he started not trusting me and acting like he doesnt love me at all, more like he doesnt know me. also he is ALWAYS flirting with this girl he used to have a thing with. but she says she is in love with her boyfriend. however, he lives in another state. i dont know what to do, all my friends are telling me to leave him because i am just miserable. he is always flirting with other girls, ignoring me and acting like he doesnt care or love me. but i know that he has problems and i want to stick by him through this, yet he is pushing me away. i love him so much and i just want our relationship to go back to how it was before. i know he is an asshole and i really dont like him right now but i still love him and will always and i want him back so bad. please help me i dont know what to do.
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I get what you mean. You miss the way he was, or you thought he was. This happened to me and it sucked so bad. But listen to your friends. They see it from the outside and it looks like crap from there. Your inside and your wanting to go back on how it use to be. If there was a chance you guys ever got back together it probably wouldn't be the same. You guys would probably still argue and fight. If it doesn't work out very good the first time, seconds aren't that much better. In some cases it does but in most, no. He's making you miserable. Sit back and think, do I really deserve this guy? Do I really deserve all of this crap he's putting me through? I doubt you do. There are so many better guys out there, trust me. You'll find one that will really care. This guy just isn't worth it. It might take some time to get over him but you will and you'll be fine. Those memories won't go away and you know that. But now just try to get over him. Go hang out with your friends and go meet some other guys. Try and forget about him. Good luck!
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I know it's hard to hear, but your friends are right. If this guy really loved and respected you, he wouldn't be putting you through this. If you're still convinced that he's the one for you and that you want to make things work then try giving him one more chance. Confront him face to face, not through text or IM and ask for the truth. If he continues to be vague and refuses to give you a straight answer then walk away. Maybe you will be able to work through this but to me this guy just sounds immature and selfish, certainly not someone who is worth your time.
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