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Okay, well i have this bad habit to get REALLY jealous REALLY easily. But like, i cant even help myself. Cause ive never been this jealous before. Like, any other past boyfriends ive had i didnt even care, but now my boyfriend that we are REALLY serious about each other, i get REALLY jealous. Like, if i see him looking at another girl, i feel like im not good enough...idk its really bad. And if he talks to another girl, idk i just fell like i dont matter? I do not know what the heck is wrong with me, but i try to stop myself cause ive talked to him about it and he saif that theres nothing to worry about, cause he only cares about me, and i definatly believe him i just keep thinking like that. But one of his ex-girlfriends i dont like, and becuase he told me what he did to her, but we were talking about that stuff, and now whenever i see her, and hes with me i just picture him doing that to her, and its horrible. I really think i have a serious issue with being jealous. I dont kmnow but all i know is i just needed some advice PRONTO so i can
try to stop doing this. help PLEASE! :(
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Well jealousy is a very bad thing, its painful and a big mistake in a relationship.
You don't have issues, it's in your personality but there must be a reason for overreacting, or over doing jealousy.
Maybe because there is tiny bit in you that wants to be a better person, wants to be perfect for her boyfriend.
You want to be perfect but trust me you can never be the right person without letting stuff go.
Well you see... to build a relationship you need honesty and when honesty is complete you'll never be jealous.
There is something making you think about your boyfriend's ex-girlfriend and that is bothering you. You should talk to him about it.
And maybe if you let your boyfriend talk/look at other girls that will prove to you, that you don't need to be jealous and it might even take the jealousy away.
Good Luck =]=]
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Jealousy is a very tricky thing, but if this happens to you in all of your relationships, its definitely a problem that you have. Try thinking about your life (and even back to your childhood)about a time when something you had was taken from you, or when someone lied to you and it hurt you really bad. This jealousy is probably actually a trust issue. Once you have realized where your jealousy comes from and what causes it, you can then concentrate on keeping it in control and hopefully get rid of it. But if your boyfriend is a good man, and he's not actually cheating on you, you should make a conscience effort to trust him. When you feel jealous urges come over you, stop whatever you are doing and tell yourself that this feelings are superficial and invalid! Take a deep breath and move on with your day. The most important part is to try not to dwell on the jealous feelings because that will result in you being angry and feeling like there is something wrong with yourself for feeling that way. For more info. on self love and building your self esteem, visit my blog www.smoothdivaj.blogspot.com- Good Luck!
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You can't just stop. Sounds like you are insecure and so you are afraid yur not good enough for him and your afraid hes going to find someone better. Trust the only way to stop is to say to yourself that you are worth his time and that there isnn't anyone out there better for him. Because until you beleive that your going to be this way. Which everyone should be a little jealous but when it gets in the way of your relationship, you should just talk to him about the way you feel it may also help about him and his ex.
Good Luck!
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