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Age Limits in Dating
What do you think is an appropriate age limit for dating? Like how many years older should it be and how many years younger. I am 18 years old and I have come to the realization that I need to set a date age limit... so any ideas would be lovely. Thanks. =]
P.S. I rate high for good advice ;)
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You'll get as many different answers as you will different people, but here's a quick summary of my opinion.
Date someone who is legal.
Obviously, don't date outside your area's Age of Consent. The Age of Consents in the vast majority of places are really very fair and reasonable, with many 'close in age' exceptions to keep from criminalizing young people being intimate with their own peers. Once I started looking into these laws, I was actually pleasantly surprised with how liberal they were.
Date someone who is your PEER.
By that I mean date someone who you can be equal to. That doesn't necessarily mean age, or income or education, but those are also not horrible guidelines and it definitely does mean date someone where there is equality to your social exchanges, where you can both make decisions with equal strength, where you can both bring conversation and activities and where you can both exist with equal dignity and equal control of the relationship.
Date someone with a similar lifestyle.
This isn't a hard and fast rule, but I think it makes particular sense for younger people. A seventeen year old at high school living at home and a twenty year old in college living in residence will have a MUCH harder time then two people of the same ages who both have the same lifestyle (i.e. who both live away from home and go to school). Same thing goes for a nine-teen year going to college and a twenty-five year old working full-time. These lifestyles are wildly different and give people very different values. That makes a relationship needlessly tough. It's not a rule. I can't say those relationships wont work, just that the odds are against them and they aren't always the best idea.
There really are not firm rules (besides, of course, the law), there are just good ideas and not so good ideas. You probably know which is which.
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