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Help!!!
Ok, so I asked this guy out that I met at the place where I used to work. It was actually quite memorable since he is the FIRST guy whose number I have ever asked for. Well, we started talking on the phone everyday, but about 2 weeks after talking I lost my phone, so for about a week I didn’t have contact with him at all. When I was still in the process in getting a new phone, I went over to one of my friend’s house, and my friend Sarah* said that she knew him AND also knew the fact that he has a fiancé. To be honest I was completely shocked because in a MONTH he had never mentioned or even hinted anything about a girlfriend, much less a fiancé. When I confronted him about it, he said that I never asked him, so he didn’t feel he had to tell me. He didn’t even get her an engagement ring; its just a so-called “vow”. However, BECAUSE he didn’t tell me I just assumed he was single.
The thing is, this past week, we have hung out almost everyday. I get along with his friends and am really starting to like him; WAY more than I should. For me, this is a big deal because I am almost 19 years old, and have been in probably 9-12 relationships over the past 6 years, but have not ONCE felt the way I feel when I am with him. I have a very hard time trusting people, so therefore I have never been heartbroken because I just don’t get attached. With him, I can’t keep my eyes off him. I get nervous, my heart starts beating 100 miles a minute, and I feel those darn butterflies that people always talk about. I think about him all the time and catch myself in a daze in almost every class. I check my phone every 5 minutes (no joke either) to see if he has called me and want to be with him all the time. I know he likes me, mainly because he tells me and acts like he does in addition. We definitely have some chemistry; and its great. We have NOT had sex, and he doesn’t pressure me to have sex, although it has come up a few times in conversation. Every time I see him its 10x harder to leave him… He calls me ALL the time, just to say hey and we talk for HOURS on end. I have this cough thing (kinda like *ahem*ahem*) that he responds to whenever I do it. His friends say ive got him whipped… and im not even trying to. He takes me fishing with him and his friends, and picks me up all the time… His own fiancé wont even go fishin with him.
So I guess my question is, should I stick with him, and see where it leads, or just get out of there as fast as I can? And do you think he really likes me, or is he playing me (even though there isn’t any sex happening). Keep in mind, its hard for me to get attached, so I mean I am emotionally stable and I am NOT worried about getting hurt. Im just wondering if in the long haul, what would be the smarter thing to do… Thanks for the help! I rate high for good, thought-out answers! =]
Madison
Age 18
P.S. The guy and I have been talking for 2 months.
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well its really cool that you are having these feelings toward him. I dont get attached either hah, but you have to think about how you would feel if you were the other girl.. i think you should probably sit down and talk to him. just tell him how you feel and tell him he needs to pick cause you cant be on the side line forever. Dont pressure him into making a quick decision, tell him to think about it. either way he has to choose. if he picks you then great he really does like you (: if he picks the other one, then f%^& him he dont deserve you anyway.
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At this point, think to yourself, "How would I feel if I was his fiancee?" And also, if he's that easy to get to break away from his engagement, what's going to happen if you guys get together and he meets the next girl behind your back. You're literally setting yourself up for disaster, so you should probably back off for now. Find yourself a guy who isn't already tied down to someone.
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