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Finding a relationship
Hey I'm a 21 year old in college for three years. I'm kinda tired of the whole dating scene, so I was curious of other places/ways to meet women. I've gone out with a few girls, but they just seem to be so flaky. I'm initially attracted to them because of beauty, but then I find out there's little else other then that to them.
I'm an attractive fit smart social guy so it just doesn't make sense to me why it should be so hard trying to find a relationship. I have a huge network of friends, and I use to party a lot but lately I've been more serious with school and gotten away from that stuff.
I've gone just about everywhere to meet women, and whenever I end up meeting a great one it's 100 percent of the time that they have a boyfriend. It feels like I'm beating my head against a wall.
Any tips someone can give me for the situation??
-Thanks
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My advise is don't look for relationships, b/c most likely you won't find anyone.
Like the post said under is find a hobbie,
get to know people etc etc
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Welcome to the world of decent standards.
The simplest advice would be to say to pick up (or renew) a hobby that gets you around people. Find reasons to be around people, talk to everyone you get a chance to, and see what pops up.
It doesn't sound like you have trouble with opening, but yeah its hard to find new people to date sometimes.
Its a numbers game. The more people you're around, the more chances to get to know people.
Its also worth mentioning that if you tend towards girls who look a specific way (as often happens to guys who date beautiful girls with balls of fluff upstairs) that you lock yourself into stereotypes. Instead of going out and actively searching for a "date" just go out and talk to girls, and be open to opportunities.
Every great relationship I've had has come pretty organically. I wasn't approaching any of them with the intention of dating them, but I was open to it, dating happened, and with my current I'm quite pleased with the results four years later.
As to the "has a boyfriend" routine, pick a few winners and keep track of them. Just try to avoid being the rebound. Never sleep with a girl within two or three months of a breakup, it almost always fucks your chances.
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