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pushy guy friends
(20/F) I'm the kind of girl that gets along better with guys than girls. I make guy friends quick and easily and I enjoy talking to them. The problem is, every guy friend I make now has an ulterior motive! Even a few days after meeting, they call all the time and ask me out on dates. I don't get it and I don't like any of them that way. I don't flirt, lead them on or even dress provocatively. I don't want to lose friendships by hurting them, but what are some ways I can stop this before it starts? How should I handle it when they do try to get closer?
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My advise to you is be up front from the begining, tell them that you are intrested him them as a friend be up front be stern if you have to to get your point acrossed.And then if they dont listen and they keep presueing further then a friendship then i would advise you to cut your ties.I hope this helped you...
Good luck
Tim
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I know the feeling. I'm also 20 and don't really have girls as friends because I get along better with males, but it can be such a problem sometimes and even affects my current relationship.
The best treatment is to just make it clear you are only looking for friendships right now. Some will carry on being your friend and with others, you will see your "friendship" start to vanish, because as you know, there are some guys out there who only want to be more than friends.
In future if a guy tells you they like you but you don't feel the same, explain you are flattered but you don't want a relationship with them and hope you can stay friends. You don't have to put it in a nasty way, but please make sure you are stern with them, because if you don't sound so certain, they will hold on to a bit of hope that maybe you do like them.. when you really don't. That is when people will start to get hurt.
If a guy asks you to go out somewhere, don't assume it's a date unless he tells you so. Then, if he tries to get closer and again, you don't want to, tell him how you really feel towards him.. but the point I'm making here is don't be afraid to hang out with them on a strictly friendly way and don't assume all guys want more than a friendship. You'll know by the signs they give off.. and you can simply say you just want to stay mates if that's the case.
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