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cant have an orgasm!
okay, so me and my boyfriend have been together for about four months now. and we hook up all the time. we don't have sex, but we do other things.. but the problem is, he cant make me orgasm. we've hooked up countless times but by the fourth time when he didnt do it, i faked it. and since then ive been faking it. I mean, i can make myself cum when im by myself, but he can never get me to that point.. what should i do?
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Is he stimulating you the way you would stimulate yourself? Does he frequently change or break rhythm or switch it up just when you are just starting to build? I think you should ask him if he'd like to know what feel's good. Hopefully he will say yes, and then you can give him some pointers. In addition, I would point out to him that manual or oral stimulation is pretty much the same for both sexes. The parts are different, but the "symphony" is the same . . . start slow, gentle, teasing, slowly increase in rhythm and intensity, listen to your lover's breath so you know when to escalate your stimulation, hang on for dear life when they climax.
Funny thing is, I'll bet we'd all be excellent oral lovers if we were homosexuals. After all, I know exactly what feels good to me, so if I was given a dick to suck, I imagine I would do a good job. What most people don't realize is that the tissues that make up the male genitalia are analagous to the tissues of the female genitalia. What becomes the clitoris in the female becomes the foreskin in the male . . . and so on. You really aren't in foreign territory when you go down on your lover. It looks different, but it's wired to the same pleasure centers in the brain, and that's what matters.
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you need to show him how to make you orgasm, you should never fake it. Whatever works for you when you masturbate, you need to show to him, so he can please you for real. It shouldn't be uncomfortable for you to explain this to him. Anyone at that point in a relationship should feel comfortable with each other.
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