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admit that i like him?
16f
I've like my guyfriend from school for about 2 and a half months now (it seems so much longer...) and it's possible he likes me but he might not. And there have been a lot of signs saying he does and also certain things saying he just sees me as a friend. I can't tell anymore, I'm so bad at this, I've never had a boyfriend before. Recently I feel like I'm not getting as far with him as I have before, everything is just the same and we're friends. I feel like I'm not getting through to him and it's hard for me to just drop hints that I like him because I'm just bad at this. I'm considering admitting that I like him. But I don't know how, everytime a guy has found out I liked him its just like a complete epic fail, and I feel like it's just going to continue to happen to me. And the only time a guy has found out directly from me was a couple months after my friend blabbed it and I had initially denied it, and that was a big disaster, so I have no idea when, where, and how I would admit it to him. But the thing is compared to other guys I've liked I have a much better chance I'd think and he's much better and more of a keeper than any other guys I've liked, but I wouldn't want to ruin our friendship if this were to backfire. I don't know what to do! Should I tell him and risk rejection and possibly mess up a friendship? And if so how the hell should I do it? I'm so bad at this, please help!
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Its not what you say but how you say it. If you just come on to him without any warning and just say I like you! To him he's probably thinks WHOA! Where did this come from? I thought we had a friendship. So what you should drop hints for about a few weeks then let him know. Best advice I can give is give flirty compliments like your shirt's really nice I like that color on you or tell him a really cute love story like the Notebook and ask what his opinion on it. That way you tell him how you would like to be swept off your feet. See if you connect on a romantic level. When you really can't take it anymore just say, hey I noticed you did "blah blah" and I was wondering if you like me. Then wait...if he hesitates; you quickly say "cuz I think I might like you too" If he quickly says no or I just want to be friends just say ok cool I just wanted to clear the air, are we ok?
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Sounds complicated!
Let's simplify:
Generally, guys like girls who are direct and do not drop hints or play headgames. They also like girls who are confident and self-assured.
If a guy stops talking to you when he finds out that you like him, it probably means he's too immature to handle the situation, in which case you didn't need him anyway (nobody likes a coward).
Right now the ball is in your court. You need to make a decision you'll be comfortable with, and then follow through. If you tell him and it ends badly, he just wasn't right for you.
All that said, here's some other advice, and feel free to skip it, but you might someday regret it:
You're young. I'm not saying you're too young to be in a relationship (everyone has different maturity levels), but you are too young to be considering a serious, long-term relationship.
This time in your life should be for you. It should be about having fun, about enjoying your friends, and about learning -- about relationships, life, and whatever goals you have for the future (and if you don't have any goals, you should definitely be focusing on those instead).
You do not want to get into a serious relationship when you're young, and here's why:
Women need to be independent. Make sure you've got a good education and a stable job. If you don't, you'll be at some guy's mercy, and when he does something stupid, you'll be back at square one and trying to figure out how to support yourself (and your kids, should you choose to have them).
If you still want to get into a committed relationship, then make sure you know this guy.
Date him for a year or more (I'm not kidding).
Observe the way he treats you, his family, and strangers. Make sure you pay attention to what he DOES, and not what he SAYS. People are always perfect when they're trying to get you to go out with them.
Also, be yourself. Talk to him. Tell him what you think, how you feel, and don't feel obligated to change for him. If he doesn't like you look when you're not dressed up, if he doesn't talk to you when you're not in the best of moods, you're not compatible.
Be genuine, and you will only attract people who like you for you.
Hope this helps. Best of luck!
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