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Im afraid if made a name for myself..


Question Posted Saturday March 14 2009, 12:43 pm

Okay,this could get a little confusing so il explain it as best i can.
basicly im a 16 year old girl and my family has always been into playing darts..and its pretty big theres like tournaments on all the time and my sister plays and is always travelling places with it.
i never showed much interest before but i recently starting getting into it and going to the tournaments i knew practicly everyone that plays and is involved because i used to go when i was younger and my best friend david plays too.
anyway there was a tournament on a while back in this hotel and after it everyone always drinks so i had a few not that many but basicly i ended up making out with one of the guys shane. (just kissing) that was fine and a few weeks later there was a really important tournament that was like a weekend long thing my cousin came with me because she really likes my friend david..she ended up getting with him and i got with shane again and we stayed a while in their room (again all we did was kiss)now on to where it gets complicated you see shane lives in a seperate county to me so nothing could ever really happen.
anyway a few weeks after this it was my friend davids fathers birthday. so all the darts crowd were comming shane wasnt though. but one of the other guys dean was there ive known him ages too and i secretly liked him for a while but basicly i ended up kissing him but it was really short and i regretted it hugely the next day because i thought people were gonna start thinking i was a slut or something! i sowre then that i wasnt going to get with anyone else from the darts because i didnt want to make a name for myself.
but last week there was another tournament on where shane and dean were both there i thought it would be awkward but luckily it was ok. after the tournament there was like over 20 of us in the lobby of the hotel just talking and stuff and i was having a laugh with this guy warren then he asked me was i with shane and did i like him and stuff and i said yea and he said do you want me to ask him if he will get you again and i got all embarrased and said no dont then i went outside for some air and he followed me and we were talking and he started saying how shane said it was bothering him that he was 18 and that i was just 16 or something like that. while we were talking though i could tell warren was coming onto me and i really didnt want to get with him because i knew people would defenately talk about me then put he kept pressuring me telling me he really liked me and that he wouldnt tell anyone we were together and i was really reluctant and told him im not that easy and people would know and talk..but eventually i gave in and i seriously regretted it.
i found out then that shane hadnt said anything like that to him so he was probably just using it so that he could get with me which really upset me.
so basicly now ive kissed 3 different guys from the darts and im worried people are gonna think im some sort of easy whore who will kiss anybody and who only goes for the guys but im interested in the sport and im going to start playing soon! im honestly not that type of girl all i did was kiss each of them and im still a virgin too..its just im worried about making a name for myself and now im having second thoughts about going to anymore tournaments because im afraid of what people will say i know people will like say things to me over it and i can take that but sometimes people go to far and it gets to me!?
anyone have any advice on what i should do? my sister said not to mind anyone who says anything that what i did wasnt bad but to not get with anyone else again (not that i was planning to) i still cant help feeling cheap and easy though!


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holahayley56 answered Sunday March 15 2009, 12:32 am:
ha aw no your fine. i have friends that date like 23 year old guys and do so much with them, and i'm your age. but their a little over the top.. but still. those are whores. you're not.

I agree with what your sister said completely. I mean yes, you probably shouldn't of made out with all those guys, and that isn't the best thing you could have done, but you realize you made a mistake, and it's really not that big of a deal.

if anyone says anything to you, just ignore them. just move on from the whole thing..

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sousou1234567 answered Saturday March 14 2009, 10:48 pm:
Ok. Listen i've made out (gone too far than kissing) with alot of guys.

I think you should go to the tournaments and never miss it.

What you did with shane, dean and warran wasn't a big deal, you guys just kissed.

Warran is a jerk, so ignore him completely and don't come near him again and at least you should learn a lesson to never trust people so easily and be smarter than that.

And don't regret what you have done because apparently you have enjoyed it and the secret of not getting to you think like a guy, don't be emotional and don't care of what people think of you, what you sister said is totally true.

I drink and i do WHATEVER i want, not that i wasn't called a bitch,whore, or slut before, but i don't care as long as i know that i'm not a bitch, whore, or slut and whoever called me this names are useless people who need a life, so basically i shut them up and laugh at there stupidness.

and you should do the same.

One question: how come guys can have sex with zillion of women and not be called slut, bitch or whore?

Yes, it's unfair and some girls don't understand that it's because they don't care so we shouldn't care either.

and if you're scared for your reputation, a guy is going to like you for who you are not what you are..!!

Good Luck =]=]

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