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marriage issues and sex
I have been married for 9 years. I love my husband dearly but I was sexually abused for most of my childhood by my stepfather. I am really having issues with sex and intamacy. My husband chews tobacco and doesn't take care of his teeth very well. It is hard enough for me to be intamate with him but with his breath smelling terrible all of the time it has made it that much harder. I don't want to hurt his feelings and make him feel rejected. Can you please give me some ideas on how to express my need for him to be more aware of this issue. This sounds peddi and stupid but I really don't want any issues in that department. It is very hard for me already. Thanks
Jayhawk 33
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If you were abused as a child, you may want to seek some counseling for those issues. Talk to your regular doctor and get some suggestions. It may also help to discuss your feelings with your husband.
You also need to talk to your hubby about taking care of his teeth. Its never easy, but he isn't going to change unless do. Maybe buy him a new toothbrush. Tell him you know he isn't going to stop chewing but that he needs to take care of his teeth and gum's. Mine used to chew also and even though he is rather anal about tooth care he still got damage from it.
Honestly, you are not being petty about it at all. Bad teeth make for bad breath. Bad breath makes kissing him anything but a pleasure! Let him know that. It will be hard to do, but he may not even realize it.
Good luck. :)
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