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idk what to do about him...
okay so im a sophmore in highschool and theres this guy who is a frehsman in college. we have known each other for over a year and we talk honestly, ALL the time. We talk about everything and anything, hes so easy to talk to and hes really fun. The only problem is he has a girlfriend and we never talk about anything having to do with relationships but it just seems like hes been very flirty lately. Example, we video chatted but his girlfriend was in the room so he didnt want to talk so she would know i guess? but i could talk to him (he would have ear phones).it made me a little uncomfortable and that is the first time something like that has happened. anyways my friend thinks he likes me since hes been flirty lately and since we always always talk. i know that i could easily like him, but i dont want to let myself like him because i know he has a girlfriend and i do not want to be that girl at all.
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This smells like trouble to me. My friend was actually in a similar situation, so I know how badly it could end. Please keep an open mind.
If this boy is flirting with you behind his girlfriend's back, what does that say about him? Couldn't he just as easily do that to you?
Also, imagine being in his girlfriend's position. How would she feel? Would you want to cause her pain like that? In a very real sense, to her you could be "the other woman".
Consider your ages. You are a sophomore in high school, so probably 15 or 16 years old. He is a freshmen in college, about 18 or 19. Its a little risky in my opinion. When a lot of people go to college, they want to be single because they will meet so many new people! I know that this particular boy has a girlfriend, but having a relationship with someone in college is very risky, and has the potential for a lot of heart-break.
And also, I am curious how you met this boy? If you met him online, then I definitley think you should back away. He could pretend to be anyone! Even seeing him in video chat isn't the same. You never know how many other girls he talks to like that. I just thought I would throw this piece out here.
Overall, I think you not let yourself fall for him, and move on to someone more reasonable. Even if he does like you, this boy has a girlfriend and is a lot older than you. Protect your heart, hun.
Hope I helped!
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Well there's no question, but I'm assuming "idk what to do about him" is the question. You're completely right, you shouldn't let yourself like him because he has a girlfriend. If he's flirting with you while he has a girlfriend, he'd probably do it to you behind your back, you know? I'm glad you have a mature sense of mind, and my advice would be to drop these vid chats and constant chats. Sure, a guy in a relationship can have a friend... But it's not cool for him to talk to another female specifically... and hide it. If she were open to him talking to you, he wouldn't have to hide it. And this can lead to problems and confrontations with his girlfriend. Hope I helped!
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