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okcupid..
This is going to be a little long... So I've been going out with my bf for about 6 months now. just last month he left to go to japan for a year for a job. Anyway, the other day i found a profile of his on okcupid that he made back in 2005..but it said that he had logged in 3 days before..and his location was updated and it said he was single.. i confronted him about it and he told me that all he uses that is for tests that he does on it when hes bored and he deleted it right while we were talking and he dosen't use it for dating and that he didn't update his location.. he said that sometimes it will update by itself if he has other things on the internet that say where he is..like blogs and stuff.. is this true?? what should i do? i love him so much and i want to believe him.. but i almost don't.. if anyone has any advice or has been through something like this.. please let me know.. thanks
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He's IS lying about OkCupid updating his location 'all by itself'. I don't use the site, but I can't believe for a second that that is true. Especially when he tries to justify it by saying it would have 'found it' on other websites. Websites are NOT that clever. They can't be! There would be serious privacy infractions and all sorts of errors if that were true! If he has said OkCupid knew from his IP address, I might give him the benefit of the doubt (or at least a bit of credit for being a good liar) but if that is really what he said then he's trying to pull one over on you.
However, that doesn't automatically mean he was cheating. He might have simply been doing something rather stupid and then trying to keep you from being hurt by his stupidity.
You should tell him however, that you don't believe him about OkCupid 'automatically' knowing what country he is in and that there are plenty of places to take 'tests' that don't exist for the sole purpose of meeting other people.
After that, if you want to believe he's still true to you, go ahead. He might be. This might have just been a meaningless mistake, but don't be so foolish as to believe him on a website's telepathy. That just sounds like a foolish little boy trying to keep you calm when he got caught doing something wrong.
You don't need to attack him, but don't play the fool.
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