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im to worried hes not "good news"
im 16/f
and hes 18/m
ill try to make this as short as possible.
we've been dating for a little over a month.we kinda rushed as you would say, we've been through the sex and i love you stage. and im geting kinda lost. hes on probation, and he has a bad rep of being a man whore sort of. well he gave me his password to change his about me, because i wanted to write it, so i was looking and i found sent messages that he sent girls on those truthboxes, saying, well nasty things, just weeks before we dated, and he was telling girls i love you and all this other things. we've already been through the "your not cheating on me are you" and then people all say hes not good news and i get frustrated and tell him what people are saying. i dont want him to think that i dont trust him, which i actully dont really completely or that i was snooping, which i was. i know i should talk to him but i really care about him, even if we did rush into things. any advice?
thank you sooo much.
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Well, this is a really tough situation...
You might not like what I'm going to say here, but he sounds like "bad news" to me. If he's rushing into things with you instead of going slow, that's a bad sign right there.
The fact that he's sent nasty things to a lot of other girls right before you two got together, that's another, even worse, bad sign. It is especially bad because other people have called him a "man whore". Now, normally I wouldn't say to believe what others are saying, but it sounds like there is a real good possibility of truth behind the name =/
The reason I'm being real blunt with you about it, is because I've seen these notorious "man whores", and I've seen what they can do to girls. They're NOT "good news", and they definitely aren't worth it in the end.
You're right when you said that you should talk to him. You need to sit him down, and just talk to him about all of it- the messages to other girls, the way you rushed into things with him, the fact that you don't really trust him and that's WHY you were snopping in the first place, etc.
So my advice? Talk to him about it. Find out the facts, and make sure you tell him that you want him to tell you the TRUTH, no matter how bad it might be.
And then, think about the relationship itself. Is he worth it? Or would you rather find a guy who IS "good news"? Personally, I think you probably deserve A LOT better. But talk to your boyfriend and see what he says, then make your choice.
Good luck & I hope this helps!
-Laura (16-f)
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