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i just wanna be his friend
okay well me and this boy used to be bestfriends. like sooo close he wuld come over all the time and talk on the phone with me and everything bestfriends shuld do. and then it became more than that for a while now. we just recently broke up and i have a feeling things wont ever be the same. he keeps trying to make a move on me even though we just broke up. i want to be his bestfriend like we used to be but that cant happen if he thinks we're more than freinds...i dont want to be mean and say i dont like you..but it seems like i have to....what do i do, what do i say?
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They wont. He likes you, and he won't ever not like you. Get back together or break it off entirely, anything else won't work, because guys can't be friends with girls they like alot.
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it's common for friendships of opposite sex to become a relationship, but the hard part is when they break up and someone wants the friendship back, which is your case. I believe that every relationship after a break up should spend some time apart and can be friends afterward. In your case there was a friendship before the relationship, so that shouldn't be hard, but you do need to give each other some time away from each other. The time really depends on you guys, some people take more time than others. Be honest with him and tell him how much you care for him as her friend and let him know you'll be there when he is ready.
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Well, this sort of depends on the reason you guys broke up.
I mean, if it was something he did wrong, or messed up with, he probably wants a second chance, or just wants to prove to you that he's more than what he seems.
But if you just want things back to the way they were, I can only say that you can mend the past and have things go back somewhat to the way they were.
It takes time, but sometimes the best way is to find a quiet time or while you guys are hanging out, start talking about the past, like past memories you enjoyed with him. Before you guys went out.
(Just find somewhere a bit casual to do this, not romantic!)
Then slowly talk to him and sort of imply what's going on. Don't be blunt though, these things take time.
(Be honest but smooth with your words, I'm sure he can sort of feel what's going on as well)
I used to be great friends with a real nice girl once...and I'm wondering if she's thinking the same thing you are.
Slowly but patiently,
-XingZang.
(Tell me if that helps!)
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