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bffl and him
Hey cari. help me out? Me and my best friend have been getting distant for the past few months. Ive gotten used to it so its fine to me. But today she said how she was mad that i dont talk to her and she always texts me first. Clearly i text her more and always have. if she wants to talk so bad cant she pick up the damn phone and call me. Shes just so use to me calling her all the time and texting her like months ago, because we both knew that i did and i didnt really care because i was used to calling her and talking all the time. So she expects me to keep doing that but its not like that anymore. She basicly started a big argument and said that i was too into this guy i like and just want attention and that i ignore her texts if im texting him at the same time and that we dont hang out anymore because of him. First off i dont even hang out with him, i admitted that i do get a little distracted when texting them both because i wind up paying more attention to him. But she said that i am replacing her with him. Thats way exagerating. Shes got me to the point where i just dont care any more and our friendship will just end in us being silent. Besides this its just her in general and other things that make me want to not be friends. Im going to go out with this guy soon and she'll be even more mad and think i chose him over her and i know she will go telling her mom and sis and other best friends that i basicly chose him and thats not true. its going to appear that way too if we just stop being friends and right after i go out with him. I just want to prove that im not replacing her and a way to either end the friendship , like should we just not talk and thatll be the end in time or talk and end it? like idk.
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I know what your going through. You're friend has to understand that when you meet someone new (especially a guy) you're going to want to get to know them better and spend time with them. She should be supportive of that. It's hard to split up time perfectly so no one gets left out or shoved to the side. If you feel this friendship is worth saving, ask her to hang out, a girls day, just the both of you, and explain to her how this makes you feel, and that she should try and understand the predicaments shes put you in. Then tell her that you can see her point and that you'll try and accomodate her needs to. It can feel a little overwhelming I know, but if you two can talk it out and be 100% honest with eachother then things should be okay. All thats needed is some patience and understanding and her willingness to share you with other people.
A friendship is only worth saving if both people are willing to fix it.
If shes not going to try and cope with things that change and try to resolve it, then its not worth it.
<3 Hope I helped.
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