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worried about him
16/f
My best guy friend moved a few years ago and we still keep in touch. and he is like a brother to me. We have had a thing between us where we both liked each other and we tried long distance but it didnt work. and we decided to stay best friends. well he found someone else and recently broke up. He's been talking to me a lot and i'm always there for him and i'm trying so hard to help him, but he is SO depressed. He says everything in his life sucks and he doesnt know why he's still living. and everyone would be better off if he wasnt alive. I REALLY care about him and i have done everything i could possibly think of to help him.
also, he says part of the reason why he is depressed is because he and i didnt work out. and i told him that some relationships are just not meant to be. and he says he has no love in his life and i say his family loves him and godddd i just dont know what to do! I really need help here. badly. I'm afraid that he's going suicidal and i care so much about him. but not in the romantic way.
HELP PLEASE!!!!! i'm begging you. please help me
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Every man and woman has their ups and downs, a time in their lives where they think no one loves them and that they just don't belong. Explain to him that he doesn't have to be in a relationship to be happy. Also, tell him not to fix what isn't broken. You guys are bestfriend. Bestfriends last a lifetime, while relationships only last for a moment in time. I'm sure he'd rather have you for a lifetime than a moment in time. You should write him a long letter, old-school, handwritten of reasons why you love him, and why he's your bestfriend. Also, let him know how you, his family, and friends would be affected if anything were to happen to him. Sometimes that's all it takes. And a hand-written letter than he can hold on to is a lot more personal than a telephone call. And don't forget to tell him: "Everything will be alright in the end. If it's not alright, then it's not the end."
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Ok, so if you think he is suicidal then you must take action immediately. I know that sounds serious, which it is serious, but it is better to be safe then sorry. I would tell your school counselor, his parents (if you think they would understand), a doctor or a nurse. I know you would like to approach him yourself which is important also but a lot of times a depressed person will not listen so it is important to bring other people into the picture. Just make sure he is ok and keep in contact, don't let him start avoiding you or people, that is a bad sign... if you have any more problems let me know. There is also a suicide help line I think 1-800-suicide is the number and there should be some local resources and other people you can contact. Also look for signs of bodily harm such as cutting and excessive use of alcohol or drugs of any type. Make sure to tell someone if you see these as self harm is often a step towards suicide.
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