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me and this girl cate have been friends for 8 years.i used to live close to her but i moved about 4 years ago. Even though i moved its like nothing changed, we are still best friends. about 6 months ago she got a boyfriend and he's 18, SHES ONLY 14. She skips school to be w/ him and she already missed 30 days of school. she doesn't call me anymore. she started smoking cigarettes and pot w/ him.She told me shes sexually active. I'm really worried. She still tells me how much i mean to her and stuff, but i don't feel the same way. her boyfriend has totally changed her, all she does it think about him. Should i talk to her parents? i am so lost. EVEN WORSE HER MOM AND DAD DON'T KNOW THAT SHES DOING THIS STUFF.she called me a good two shoes, and we used to talk aleast every night, but thats all changed. She's even lied to me a lot. Please help me. Thank- you
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you have to try to get through to your friend. shes obviously making some really risky desicions, and since you moved, you cant really be there to help her. next time she calls you, or you call her, try to schedule a day where you two could get together. now, i know i dont know how far away you live from her, but if its a few hours, find a place thats about halfway to her place, and both of you meet up there. if its more than a few hours...well i dont know if a plane ticket is worth just a few hours with her...but yeah.
when/if that happens, you HAVE to try to get through to her. she wont want to listen to you, and she may even resent you because of it. but if shes really your friend, your opinion might affect her and make her rethink some of this stuff.
if you cant meet up with her, call her or something and ask her to hear you out for a few minutes. tell her you're really worried and dont want to completely lose her.
anyways, if you talk to her and nothing changes, then i dont know what else to tell you. :
if all else fails, and things start getting totally out of hand, call her parents/tell you parents that your worried about her and that shes in trouble.
you two sound like you've been close for a while, and it sounds to me that since she has a boyfriend so much older than her, shes just trying to fit in. try to talk to her, and if it doesnt help, tell her parents SUBTLY. :)
i hope it all works out.
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