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its been a while. :)


Question Posted Friday February 20 2009, 12:56 pm

i haven't written anything in like a month.
so i figured id give u an update..i started to get better then i started to fall down and id say something to him once a week or so.
and apparently my 'best friend' wants to help me so she tried to talk to him..
last week i texted him and apparently he was about to text me back and he dropped his phone and it shut off and he went to write it all out again and it died..and then i IM him monday and he wanted to answer but he was afraid to what it will mean...

aparently he's been watching me? he saw a RIP away message of mine and said "i feel bad yea but im afraid of what will happen after i talk to her if i talk to her, it's to help lift her up when i tell her to leave me alone after that it'll hurt even more and she'll fall further than she was when i helped her up i fele horrible looking at it" *she tells him the 4 major events in my life the last 4 months* and he said "dang i know that if i msg her or call her or anything there is no going back and idk if im ready"

hes messing with my head again. :-\
he told me he was done...and there was no going back.
and i always feel like he has been watching me all this time...and he has..
and i dont know. :-\


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karenR answered Saturday February 21 2009, 7:39 am:
I don't think he is messing with your head on purpose. I honestly think you need to distance yourself from him and move on. For real.

I think he would like to be friends only. It sounds like he is afraid to do that because it gives you the hope that it is or could be more than that. To him it isn't ever going to be. So he is backing off and staying away from you. Which is actually a very mature and believe it or not caring thing for him to do.

I think it comes down to this. He cares for you. But probably more as he would a sister. It probably makes him feel bad that he can't reach out to you when you are troubled. BUT, he knows in the long run it makes things worse and harder on you.

You have to accept that you will never have a relationship with this guy. Not the kind of relationship you want anyway. Hard as it is for you to do, you have to accept it and move on. Stop dwelling on him and what he thinks and does. Its the only way to move on.

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