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Why is he doing this?
Hi, well see, I noticed a few questions that you answered, and you seem to know a lot about guys (haha, cuz you are one) and see well, there is this boy... He's really confusing me and I was hoping you could tell me whats going on from a boys point of view. He is 14 and you are 19 but maybe you could still help. As I said, he is 14 and I am 13, and we are in 8th grade. We have known eachother since 1st grade, and I developed a major crush for him when I was in 7th grade, but we never really started talking untill last summer. We talked A LOT and we really got to know eachother. Once school started, things got kind of complicated. People started teasing and for awhile he ignored me, which really hurt. I confronted him about it and his answer kind of confused me. He said that he really liked me, he just didn't want a girlfriend but that ignoring me was wrong, he said he was sorry for hurting me and that he didn't care what people were saying anymore. Things were better after that... Kind of... See we both liked eachother, we talked all the time (we are in the same group of friends so we hang out quite a lot and sometimes we talk past midnight online, about everything, it was all innocent). Our relationship was kind of go with the flow, my friends called us " the couple that wasn't dating". But I'm tired of it now. I'm tired of "going with the flow" I want to know where we stand. I feel like he's just playing games with me. But not the kind of games where its like, flirt with you and then go flirt with another girl. Haha, not at all, in fact I'm pretty sure I am the only girl he talks to on a regular basis, he's not that kind of boy. Its the kind of games where I think he gets a laugh out of playing with my emotions. Or maybe hes just messing with me out of boredom, but I can't imagine why he would do that. Plus sometimes it seems like he really wants to be my boyfriend. He gets protective of me when other guys get a little carried away with their pervertedness. Or sometimes it seems like he gets kind of jelous when I talk about other boys, but he has no right to, he said he didn't want a girlfriend! Whats his deal?? I am absolutely crazy about him, but I don't know what to do... What do you think is going on here??
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There are a lot of things probably going through his head. At 14, nobody (male or female) thinks straight when it comes to relationships. I don't know what his family says about relationships, or what his friends think about you. What a guys friends say about a girl has a huge impact on whether he will pursue a relationship with her. If he's openly flirtatious with you in front of his friends, then this isn't the problem.
I had a situation similar to this when I was 14. Actually, it sounds almost identical. I really liked a girl, and she wanted a relationship with me. I knew that a relationship at 14 is destined to fail, and so I tried to maintain that delicate balance between friend in boyfriend in hopes of keeping away from the relationship until we were both mature enough to handle it, but without falling into the friend zone.
That's a pretty rare scenario though. My main guess would just be that he's scared. Relationships and things of that nature are intimidating to guys at that age. It's all new and guys go through a trial period of being really awkward around girls. Be straightforward with him and don't be afraid to take the initiative. I can't guarantee you'll hear what you want to hear, but you'll probably hear what you need to hear.
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