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Easily Discouraged
I like a guy in my school, I'm not sure if he likes me but it's possible. He doesn't know I like him. There are a lot of signs he does like me but a couple of things make me skeptical about it. But the fact of the matter is whether he likes me or not I get completely discouraged over little things and completely lose confidence in myself, and lose confidence that I'll ever have a chance with him. I know I should go with my intuition because he has shown several signs but one little thing happens and I'm totally upset. How can I feel more confident about myself, around him, and in the possibility of him liking me or ever liking me?
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You need to reach way into your past and ask yourself where this lack of confidence comes from. Did someone say or do something to you that made you unsure of yourself and lack confidence even for small stuff? Be brutally honest with yourself.
Once you figure that out and drop it and move forward you'll be fine. As far as the guy goes go for it and see what happens. All signs lead to him liking you. Even if he says no he'll respect you for trying as girls don't usually do the approaching.
Hold your head high. You're no better or less than any other girl or someone else. Just believe in yourself and the qualities you have to give. Definitely chuck out of your mind all these negative thoughts about confidence once you figure out where they stem from.
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Having no confidence also goes with thinking your not good enough. You need to be asking yourself, 'Is he good enough for me?' When talking to him, ask him if he likes biking, running, walking, anything, then say, hey, how would you like to go with me? If he says no, say, thats ok, and then say maybe I'll see ya sometimes. You know, one time I had a crush on some guy, he was popular, I didn't think I had a chance, guess what? He thought he wasn't good enough for me, so, he wouldn't ask me out. I about died. We finally dated. He told me this, after I went out with him, so, if I hadn't pursued him, it would never have happened. Go for it. It can't hurt.
good luck.
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