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family problems.
18/f. ever since i was born my mom has revolved her life around me. even her job revolves around me. i'm very independent and i provide for myself and i like to do my own thing. but she's so immature and she tells everyone how attached to me she is and she treats me like i'm a child and it's mainly because she wants younger kids but she can't have them. so i get stuck with her treating me like one. and unfortunatley i spend a lot of time home, with her. she has to know every detail of my life. she doesn't have her own life anymore, it's so annoying. and she basically makes me live my life how she wants/wanted to live hers. she doesn't talk to anybody with daughters/sons my age, so she doesn't know how things should be. i'm so sick of this. what can i do?
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Sometimes if her child is all a woman
has, it is hard for her to let go. You
don't need to wait until you have kids
of your own. You live it everyday.
You don't mention if your dad is at
home or if she is a single mom? If
you could add that info, I could give
a better answer in an edit. :)
Thought so but wanted to be sure.
Do you have any friends with single moms?
Or Dads for that matter? If so try enlisting
their help. They have all been through it
themselves. Maybe they could even take her
to a movie or just get her out and about.
Is there a friend she has at work? Maybe you
could suggest she invite a friend for dinner
or something. As soon as things are going good,
make an exit.
An aunt you can talk to? Aunts especially
if single can get her out of the house.
Encourage her all you can. Spend an evening
with her doing a make over on her. Give her
some ideas. Shes probably clueless. If just
going out with people her own age isn't
something she has done in a long time, its
just a matter of helping her find the courage
to do so.
Just remember she isn't doing it to get on your last nerve, though she is! She just needs some
help letting go.Help her get involved in something she might enjoy, volunteering with
a kids group or something. Use your imagination.
Could she consider a foster child? They need
loving homes AND the attention of a good mother. :)
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not to sound like im not on your side, but have you ever thought about what your life would be if she didnt care about you? there are lots of kids that have parents that dont care bout them so much they dont feed them and take college money from them. i know you want to feel independant i can understand thats important. but its your mom, shes in your life for a reason. she says you wont understand until youhave a daughter because you havent experienced what its like to have a child and know shes the only one in the world who will always be there for her.
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