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choose between lover and family
Hi everyone
Long story short
I am a 25 female
My mother left us when we was around 13 years old,so i had to take care about my 2 other sister and i practacly raised myself,still managed to get a degree and i have my own home ...''a normal life'',it is so hard for me to get a man since i cant trust no one ,it has to do much with my past ...about more than a year ago i felt in love with this guy and he lives in Africa and he is the best that could have happen to me ever and i hope and dream again .Finally we decided to meet in july and my sisters dont really aprove this cause they are scared that something may happen to me when i go over there to visit him ...this thorne my heart appart,They even made me doubt this guy even though he never did anything to make me doubt him ....He is an accountant and ahve his own home and dont want to leave his country to come live in Europe so it's not a pasport thing ,I am just going there to visit and meet him and come back and see what happens .Can you pls help me ....I dont eat ,sleep ..i am really confuse and i am running out of answers ....Is teh frist time i feel like i fanaly can go and do something for my own happiness .For the first time its about me and not about my sisters
My sisters are my only reason to live and my only family
what should i do ?....should i try to forget this guy eventhough he is my reason to live or just go ahead and do what my heart tells me to do ?..and if i go over there what precausions should i take in case something goes wrong?
I really dont knwo what to do ...
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If you don't go and meet with this guy, then you'll end up spending the rest of your life wondering as to what your life could like if you had met him. At least if you go and it doesn't work out, at least you know but if you didn't, then you'll never find out if it would've worked out.
For most of your life, you've been selfless, putting your sisters before you in helping raise them so on and so forth. Now, I think you're old enough to be selfish and do something which you want to do.
Of course your sisters will worry, next to being there for you it's the next best thing anybody in any family can do and it shows that they really care for you and don't want to see you get hurt. But sometimes, you just need to go on ahead and see what happens. Like I said before, you won't know what will happen, unless you go on ahead and do it.
Could you live with yourself, knowing that you'd found 'the one' and you'd let him go for your sisters? I admire that think about them, but now it's your time to be yourself and I'm sure that your sisters are old enough now to look after themselves.
As for precautions, it all depends as to which part of Africa he's from. You get the good parts and the bad. Go to your doctor and see if there is any medication/vaccinations which you'll need when you're in the country etc.
Cliff notes version: go and meet him and see how that turns out because if you don't, you won't ever know how it would turn out.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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