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HIS MAKING MY LIFE HELL & ON TO OF THAT I WISH AND HOPE TO SEE HIM!!!
Hey im back from the holiday and so far im doing good i stopped crying even when i remember the things me and my ex done together i just want to cry but can't and true what u said i got my period and im glad for that because i would not want him for my childs father i still miss being with him but i found in some way it will never be and excepting it so far so good and you right i'll miss him but never go back to him because he don't deserve me but im just worried we go to the same school and im going to bump into to him but i don't know if i should say anything...& usually i never speak to my exs because it's never the same but im no ready and im not willing to speak and be with him ever again...i nearly phoned him but that was stupit i know im not a stalker or anything i know he moved on but just want to hear from him but good i did'nt talk to him well the other thing now that we in the same grade and school his telling his friends ima slut and showing pictures i send to him with my new underwear but its from long before i was in his spell but his making me a slut and this ruining my friendships with my group they had sex but pictures they won't except i feel so damn stupit for that i REGRET that one thing...but im glad you helped me alot and its apprecaited thanks but i just also have a problem with guys some just use me for a kiss or want sex for the night but sex i don't give it but why do men take me so low they think im the easy type!! As for the guys i don't find any attraction at the moment im not lesbain or anything im just not intrested..but would like to be but i want a guy from my school but like i said listed as a slut how do i get clean?? How do i make other guys not see me as a fling and just something specail or should i just give in but im feeling SHIT about it i know i should ignore it but the people in our school don't stop when they start they push it in...i also been praying hard and wishing hoping to see my ex alone i know it's not right but i just wish he could tell me take me back so i can say i moved on thats all i hope and pray for is that so bad?? hope you will be replying soon!!! (Lonely Girl Soth Africa)
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Sorry it's taken me so long to reply my computer crahsed and i've been a bit hopeless without it. But to your problem...you have got a lot of issues weighing you down right now and im very sad to say thats normal in this situation, breakups always bring on a load of extra trouble...its one of the things that make it so difficult.
I first want to address the issues of your feelings for your ex. It took you a while to fall for this guy, you can't expect to get over him over night. It's got to hurt first, and you have to miss him, and you have to want to talk to him. If didn't that would mean you never loved him and we both know you did and thats ok...no, thats great. Love is the most beautiful gift and its worth all the hell you'll go through trying to find it.
BUT he's not treating you well, and everytime you feel like you're going to break and call or talk to him, think about what he's doing to you with pictures and the other girl. If that's not enough to stop you nothing is.
MY other advice to avoid him for now or atleast keep your distance. You don't need false hope and its easier to get over someone when you can't see them or smell them or even touch them. Its the hardest part...walking away, but its a must. Its the best step.
As for this picture nonsense i'm going to say the one thing you probably wont like. You should ignore it. There is no room in our lives for regret. You made a mistake it doesn't make a bad person and it doesn't make you a slut. It makes you human, and you should smile about that.
When they whisper and laugh, just smile, because your the better person when you do. Someday karma will get those people and it always comes with a vengence. And besides the more you focus on that the more wrapped up in the mess your going to get.
As far as your friends, if they whisper, or turn there back on you...SCREW THEM! they arn't friends. Let them go! they'll only bring you down if you don't. it'll hurt, but the only way to start clean is to throw out the trash.
Now, about your imagine. You have no idea what doing the things i listed above will help. They will show that your strongwilled and in the end people will see who you REALLY are.
But the most important thing to remember about being respected is to remember it starts with respecting yourself. In general people are idiots and they will believe just about anything you tell them. So when they see you holding your head high and respecting yourself, they will do the same. People are followers, be a leader.
About making guys respect you. Take things slower. When you have a bad rep, deserved or not you have to do more to show your not that girl. Don't kiss until the second or thrid date. maybe even later if you don't feel secure yet. Believe it or not most guys usually understand, and if they don't you know they were there for the wrong reasons. You do that enough and the word will get around school, and suddenly the good guys will start noticing and your ex will look like a complete jerk.
I wish you luck honey. Keep that head up and don't stop smiling. And live by the golden rule...
"If can't live it down you might as well live it up, you'll and you'll learn, and worlds gonna turn, it aint going to stop for you"
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