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Mixed Signals
17/f
There's this guy, we'll call him N. Well, I've liked him for a very long time. I told him eventually, he didn't feel the same. Okay, cool. We were friends. Still are. But now, ever since him and his girlfriend (er, now ex-girlfriend) broke up, he's been flirting with me like there's no tomorrow. But then, when he's texting me updates about the game, he stopped texting back so fast. So my friend Tyler sent me updates. Well, N told me the same thing Tyler did, so I told him that Tyler told me. He then replied "Okay, just making sure pal."
It's stuff like that that always throws me for a loop. Is he just looking for a fun time, or what? I mean, him and his girlfriend only broke up cause he's going to University in September. I'm just really confused and I feel like I'm in grade school again.
Please and thanks for all the help.
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So basically I understand the boat you're in. I'm in my first year of college, but my school is only an hour and a half from my hometown. There's this guy from my hometown who I grew up with and we've talked on and off ever since the beginning of our junior year, but never dated. He always knew I liked him, and I always got the feeling he liked me, but nothing ever came of it. I would put my feelings out there, we'd flirt, but then we'd stop talking sooner or later each time and he'd end up dating someone else.
I never could figure out what was going on. Was it me? Was I not good enough? Why did he act like he liked me, but nothing ever happened?
Until I came home for a month for Christmas break, and he's of course, single right now, so we've been texting for over a month since before I left school for break.
Anyways, nothing has come of it this time. This is the longest we've ever talked, and we've definitely talked about dating, but he doesn't want to date until he transfers to my school this fall.
It seems to me that this guy is sort of the same as my guy. He seems to want some fun when you're around and he's around. When he's tied up with someone else you won't hear from him (in flirtatious/possible dating terms) and then when he's free you get a bazillion texts from him b/c he's got all the time in the world.
I think maybe it's just that flirting is fun and it makes you feel good. It's nice to feel liked by a boy or girl, and this guy wants someone to talk to. I can't read guys' minds, especially your guy, but I think you should tiptoe around it and don't get your hopes up, b/c it sounds like he's just being fun.
Maybe try having a conversation with him about what it is he's looking for right now. See if he's happy single or whatever. Play it up and find his intentions, but be careful. You don't want to like him a lot like before and get your feelings hurt.
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