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so confused
[16/f] hahaa i just want to apologize in advance for the length of this message... :)
ok, so theres this guy. and our families are friends but its not like we hang out or anything. and my brother is friends with this guy ... we'll call the guy ... jake. and my name will be ... cali.
well, jake asked me out on text at 2 in the morning randomly, when i was at my friend's house. it creeped me out because we didn't even talk that day, and he said it so wierdly and he sent me like 5 messages in a row, without me answering ... he was like, "can we talk?" ... "about us" ... "i have to ask you a question." ... "cali, i can't wait any longer, will you go out with me?" ... "i guess not."
I didn't answer him, because i was really creeped out by this. so like ... we didn't talk for liek a week. but then we started IMing eachther again, and he didn't bring it up. and i didnt either. [we're in one of the same classes by the way] and then he told me he liked me, and i told him i liked him...but we werent together. after that we kinda stopped talking and we dont sit by eachther in class and im by one of my best guy friends so we always chill with eachother and my guy friend walks me to my next class and stuff. so then comes xmas break, which was 13 days this year, and we didn't talk baically the entire time. and when he talks to me, im always the one starting conversations, and he is always using like or 2 word answers. its annoying. but the entire break he didn't talk to me, except for one day, and he IMed me and said ... "hey, im bored." i was pissed. liek wtf. he doesnt talk to me for 12 days and then uses me for entertainment when hes bored? so i told him, "jake, i dont know if you've realized but im pretty mad at you right now." and he was like why but then before i could answer he was like, "i dont want to know." and then said, "im gonna go before i say something stupid." and he signed off. liek he was running away from the problem. WTF. so then we didnt talk and then new years came around and i texted everyone on my phone, saying, "happy 2009" and he replied with, "i thought you disliked me." and i said, "you assume too much." and he never replied. it's been like 2 weeks since then and we don't talk. so i asked his friend is he hates me or something, and he apparently asked jake, and jake said no.
............ wtf. WTF.
any advice on this, or feedback, or what i should because idk if he's worth it, or why i still think about him. im just confused. thank you soo much!!!!
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It sounds like a situation I was in last year.... Not fun and I made the wrong choices. I hope I can help you out with my mistake.
You need to ask yourself whether he is worth it or not. You need to know why you like him. Is it because of his personality, his looks, his smile. Whatever it is reflect on it.
Next, you need confrontation. You need to face the problem head on. You like him? You want to know if he likes you or if you all are going to be together? If yes then you need to let him know how you feel and if he feels the same way. If he really wants to be with you he will tell you and he should do something about it. If he's not doing anything then you need to ask the question "why?". That question can make or break.
You also don't want to be with someone who only wants you to chase them. That is a sign of someone insecure.
Let me in on why he's probably saying all these 2 word answers and avoiding talk. Men are........ easily discouraged. We tend to try to avoid situations that can be uncomfortable. You need to let him know personally that your not mad at him because he is being defensive. If he thinks that your mad at him he's going to avoid talking because it could bring confrontation. Let him know your not mad at him.
Next, make sure that he sees that your putting forth the effort of starting to talk again. That way he knows that you care.
Please, dont make the mistake I made by not doing anything about it. Tackle it head on.
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