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thank you in advance
sorry, this will most likely be long, but i'd seriously appreciate it if you took some time out to help me ... 16/f
1. I love/loved my ex boyfriend. i think he was my first love, we had been best friends for 5 years until we finally became a couple, for a short period of time. 1/2 my fault. 1/2 his. he broke up with me over text, on aim, and facebook message ... yeah. kinda assholey. my parents were kinda friends with his parents .. which was a little awkward. he was my first kiss, altho ive never hooked up with anyone. it's been almost 4 months since we broke up, he told 2 of my friends that we are just friends and that it's how its gonna be.. or something along those lines, but the "just friends" part was very clear. we haven't talked for 4 months because the only way i agreed to be in a relationship with him was if he promised me we would still be very close friends and nothing would be awkward, we'd still hang out etc ... he SWORE to me that it'd be like that. we made plans to hang out over spring break and everything .... but then we broke up because i was ignoring him because a girl from his camp was telling him she wanted to hook up with him and everything and he didn't say anything like ... nah. and he wouldn't like show me his texts and im pretty sure she influenced him t break up with me. so probably because i was ignoring him in person, he broke up with me. but i may never know. but anyways. that ended everything.
until, on facebook my friend from another state got a facbook [she knew my ex, they talked a few times] and she asked me to suggest friends for her. he was one of them. i didnt know it would show up on his facebook saying that i suggested him as a friend. and then my friend facebook chatted him and was like, hey. and he was liek hey, and then started to say OUT OF NOWHERE ... "believe it or not [my name] suggested you as a friend and we havent talked in a while...blah blah" he told her not to tell me what he said because it was really mean. but i facebook messaged him and i wrote him a message about what he said was wrong and he never said anything back. i think i still like him. but i know he doesnt like me anymore. what do i do? any advice or thoughts on what i just told you? anything you have to say would help .... thank you again.
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Listen if he cant come out with the truth to you about the girl from his camp and just show you the texts from her, hes not worth it. Relationships are built on trust, there are many different types of trust but youll know yours when your in a relationship. I wouldnt bother, its not worth the time and heartache. Just move on and find another person with better characteristics than your ex. He broke up with you over Aim because he couldnt face you, ive done that before too, its really shitty but it takes some of the pain out of it. That guys not worth it, youll find such better guys along the way youll think back and say why did i bother with that dumbass.
If you wanna talk about it my Aim is
xXTryin HardXx.
Good luck.
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Well thats quite a post. ;)
I think I may be able to help you out here.
Re-establishing your friendship is key to any sort of progress between you all and individually. Getting into a relationship with a close friend is seemingly risky but there are a few things that you can do to help.
He is probably upset with the situation and wanting that friendship even if he doesn't show it. If you where avoiding him that was most likely taken personally. And on the reverse, him not showing you his texts is kina sketchy behavior. You dont wanna be in a relationship with someone who is keeping secrets. You need to appologize (I know that sucks but you are gonna have to take it into YOUR hands if you want to be friends or possibly something more).
You need to let him know that your sorry and that you really want to be friends again. You need to let him know that your not mad at him and you regrett ignoring him. Make sure he knows that your doing this as a FRIEND and that you want to be FRIENDS.
Dont show any agression or aggrivation towards him. Any sign that your mad will make him go back on the defensive.
You need to talk to him about what he said in a way that doesn't make it seem like your attacking him. You just "want to know what you did to make him say that is all".
Re-establishing the friendship is going to be hard and akward but your going to need to put the effort into the "pre-relationship reset".
When you get that far message me and give me an update on what happened and I would love to help you from there.
Hope it goes well. :)
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