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deeply confused/stressed!!
This guy at school would look at me in the hallways so i was like ooh hes really cute. and my best friend is friends with one of his friends so she told her friend to tell the guy that i thought he was hott. its been a few weeks now and he hasnt made a move! so im guessing hes just not interested BUT he still looks at me ALL THE TIME. what does that mean?! i dont understand. and now im feeling really down because at lunch, the table that he sits at always stares at me(which he rarely sits at cause he usually goes out for lunch) and its really awkward and embarassing and it must be for a bad reason.idk how it could be though because all i said was that he was hott! they probably think that i dont have a shot which i probably dont. ugh i cant even explain how frustrated i am. because i want something to happen but i know i have no shot and obviously hes not making a move anytime soon so i figure to just forget about it.idk what do you think? WHY DO YOU THINK HE KEEPS LOOKING AT ME and WHAT IS UP WITH HIS FRIENDS? also, he has to either think im cute or not cute, right? but if i were not cute in his opinion, then why is he still staring? and if i am, then why isnt he doing anything about it? two of his friends are in two classes of mine and i dont really talk a lot in those classes, im just kind of shy and they must think its a bad thing like they probably say like "oh ive never heard her talk, shes so quiet" so he is probably reconsidering talking to me. anything would help, thank you so much, i really appreciate it<3
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This is a brilliant confusing/complicated story which i would be more than happy to help you with.
Well you can try couple of things I'm going to mention right now
He doesn't take his eyes of you , well that always means one thing HE IS ALL OVER YOU
He know you like him but doesn't make a move, that could be all SHY scene or SCARED scene
That's some positive possiblities
Let's try negative
His friends told him you hate him
He doesn't beileve his friends and he is scared to ask you out
He made some kind of bet to storm you out i n the middle of school and laugh at you
But how will you find out?? very easy and clear
He is staring at you , smile at him
and then turn your smile to a smirk and walk up to him
If a sign of being nervous shows on his face , That's it ! he likes you but If you didn't notice any then just keep on going to him
keep on smirking "Hi, my name is ______, you might know my name i have the feeling , now i would love to think a cute guy like you isnt a freak , but your eyes have been staring at me for weeks now, would you mind explaining why?" say really coldly
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Good luck
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Hey I have the same problem but opposite I like a guy at my school and I always go by his table and say hi to him plus when I see him around school I try to start a conversation(this may help) try small talk like "hey (whatever his name is) um... My friends usualy notice you staring at me at lunch is it ok if I ask why? and don't get upset if he doesn't answer just get one of your friends to say this (because this is what I did with my friends and he knows I like him but we only said I kind of like him) Hey (name of guy) one of my friends kinda likes you a bit and was woundering if you two could be friends. And if he comes over to your table try not to be shy and say this " well yeah it's true I have a small little crush on you(no matter how big the crush is just say little) and I thought if anything we could just be friends mabey hangout sometime or just talk, you know for the heck of it. I reccomend you do this because this is almost exactly what my friend and I did and he knows I like him but instead of going out were friends. And trust me being friends with a guy you like is almost as good as going out with him.
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I know exactly how you feel. I'm the same as in I'm very shy and don't talk much in quite a few of my classes, so people have a preconceived idea of what I'm like, which is completely untrue. I also know how you feel about the guy, I'm having the same kind of problem right now, and your shyness is probably getting in the way.
I think that maybe this guy is shy too and that's why he's looking over at you all the time, but not actually doing anything. He may not like you, as you said he hasn't made a move, but just because he knows you think he's hot, doesn't mean that he would definitely make a move. He might think that it doesn't really mean anything, you just think he's hot. However, I am more leaning toward thinking he IS interested you, due to the fact that he keeps staring at you and also because he stared at you BEFORE he found out you think he's hot. I'm pretty sure he's interested, and is either just shy, doesn't know how to make a move, or is waiting for you to make a move.
I would suggest that next week, you make eye contact and smile at him when he looks at you. Also, always make sure you look gorgeous and stand up straight etc. Wear perfume and subtly brush past him in the hallways. After these few hints, he might make a move. Although it is equally likely that he will just return the eye contact, smiles and brushing past. And he most likely will if he's into you. Don't think that he's not if he doesn't though, as he may be shy or not confident enough to know what to do.
After this, I'd suggest that you hang around with your best friend if she goes and talks to her friend and the guy you like. Try to make amusing comments that fit in with the conversation, and try to say at least one thing which is directed to him. (You could ask your best friend to do this with you, rather than just waiting until she does.)
After a couple of these times, see if you can find him online and then add him on msn/myspace/bebo/facebook etc. and start chatting to him. Be casual but slightly flirty.
After this, ask your best friend to ask her friend who's friends with this guy if him/her and his/her friends (make sure she says names, and includes the name of the guy you like) wants to hang out with her and her friends (which obviously includes you)sometime. I would suggest going to your nearest town with a cinema. You can spend the day all hanging out, but hopefully it won't get awkward because you will have a set thing to at some point in the day - going to watch a movie at the cinema. It would be good if you could sit near him, make eye contact with him every now and then and make conversation.
Hopefully after a while you will get to know him more. It will definitely help if you can chat to him on msn. If he doesn't have msn, you could ask your friend for his number, although this can be a bit risky, as it is a lot more personal than his msn address.
After a while of hanging out with him with friends, you should feel comfortable (of if you don't, just make yourself do it anyway) saying hi to him at school, or stopping to ask a question every now and then.
Hopefully it will go well from there. If you have any more questions now, or when you're attempting my above suggestions, or once you've completed them and are wondering what to do next, don't hesitate to message me and ask anything you want.
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