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I really need help![Very long] especially a guy advice.. what would you do?
Hi, I have a huge problem.. well I'm in the worst position ever! my boyfriend well [ex].. is going to iraq on may.. and I'm moving to PA on june. We had to break up because of the situation were in.. We recently started going out and we felt so close together, like its amazing.. and for once in my life, my life is actually settled I know what college I want to go to is culinary [I want to become a chef =)] I have a great boyfriend.. which he is very sweet and respectful. & I've I had my bad luck in relationships. but to get straight to the point. the reason why we broke up is because we don't want to get hurt in the long run. because we got so attached & close to each other.
he calls me baby & sweetheart everyday.. but I can't listen to that because I miss him so much and I want to be with him.. do you think I should tell him that " I don't care about the situation and that I want to be with him" or should I just leave it.. and wait to see what happens. and I know he misses me because everytime he sees me, he says all I want for the new year & christmas is for you not to move & stay with me.. it isn't fair.. stuff like that gets me thinking you know... I don't know what to do or say!
please help!!!!!!
by the way I'm 18 & he's 21. we've know each other for 2 years. but actually started talking around august and started dating september.
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You're 18 and going to culinary school away from home. He is 21 and going to IRAQ (I assume the military)
Advice:
make a date to meet up in 4 years. You'll be done with school, his tours will be up and you will both be more wordly and have bigger eyes for the world.
"If you love something... set it free. If it comes back to you... it's yours"
You owe it to yourself (and he does to himself) to live life and not waste the best young years pining and feeling sorry for someone half a world away.
Yes... this seems like crappy advice, but in the long run it will be better for both of you. In the meantime, I would be the best badass cook I could be, take care of myself and work on being a success story to impress him when that 4 year window is up.
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Wait a minute...I think you might be saying that you broke up with him because you like him. Don't punish yourself. You deserve to be with a guy that makes you feel good about yourself, so get used to it. Maybe he won't be the guy you're with forever, maybe he will, but either way you should be with him right now because you want to. Don't worry about the future, it will work itself out. The important thing is now, and you getting used to being happy.
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