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i really want to help her as a freind (School freind) sorry its a bit long
well ill start off simple
im 17, a guy... and if anything i try to hard to help people but this problem caught me off guard.
"She" is 17 very very pretty with a great mind and i think i like her in that way (although i try hard not to because i can see my self being hurt because she always does stuff like i am about to explain) she has a boyfreind and has had him for over a year now untill new years eve when she kissed his brother... HIS BROTHER!!! its none of my buisness to get into her relationship life BUT HIS BROTHER!?!? its because i think i love her that i want to help her, iv told her before that i like her but i think that she thinks that i'v gone off her a bit (i havent) anyway she explained it to me like this..
*after i kept asking who she was texting* she addmitted it was her bf's brother and i asked why so much smiling while you text? she told me the story of how she was drunk and he started it. and its the first day back at college today and all i thought about what why does she love to live so closley with her bf and then start teasing and even having sex with other guys she hardly knows. though i am complaining about her being like this towards other people i am not exactly perfect... for last year, we kinda had a thing going she came round my house to do some course work or so i thought and she kissed me out of no were so i got really nervous (like i allways do) and i got confused and didnt want to tell her no but she really tried it on that day. (i realised at the time it was wrong but i was lonely and surprised at what she was doing) after that i got really depressed for like a week because of what we were doing. i told her how i felt and we both started crying about it.. anyway i blew my chance for her then which is what i want now because, although shes an amazing freind it wouldnt work out for me at all if we were to take our relationship further because i wouldnt be able to trust her ANYWAY i got that off my chest now please help me to try and help her realise what it is shes doing! she cant be that dense can she?!? seriously..
major thanks in advance. i'll give feedback on every answer like i allways do
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Stop getting this image in your head that she is some poor girl who needs to be helped. If you feel that way it is because she is only coming to you to cry on your shoulder. Also, get the picture out of your head that one day she is going to have an epiphany and realize she loved you all along. It sounds like she may have some emotional issues, but you are in no position to help her, because it can only hurt you.
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Im not trying to be a dick or anything.
Im telling you, used to be nice guy, aka me to nice guy. Walk away! Ive been down the same exact trail and it only leads to a hole of self hate and pity. The girl your talking about isnt the friend you think, shes exactly the same as the girl i used to know. She wants nothing more than to make you feel like shit. She will lead you on until you ask her out then she will throw it in your face and go back to her ex. Its really not worth it, my friends told me to stay away but no, i thought i could maybe be the one to tame her. I thought wrong, she made me hate myself so much that i dumped my girl friend cuz i didnt think i was good enough for her. Now my ex hates me and i hate the other girl. Please take my advice and run the other way. Good luck whatever your decision is, if you need anything which you probly will just IM me and xXTryin HardXx. Good luck man.
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