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drunken night
Ok I have known this guy for about 5 years,but really have been talking a lot the past year and a half. We have hung out only a few times and the other night we was sittin in the car drinking and the cops came so he was like elts go inside the house.While in the car he was talking about his new years resolution being not sleeping with a girl while hes been drinking a lot because he loses the girls friendship. I ended up hanging out there all night and I had to take my friend home...she borrowed my car to see a friend we was layin on the couch then went to his bed and he was like I want you to stay..but its up to you. And on and off waitin for my friend he was outside smoking and hes hugged me hes like I have known you for a year I can atleast hug you then hes like your the girl I have talked to for the longest. So I ende dup staying meanwhile he said we wasnt gonna do anything and I kept brining up what he said in the car so all we did was cuddled and kissed. He tried other things but I stopped him because of what he said in the car. I got up the next morning left he didnt talk to me much the next day I would text him but he didnt text me back do you think he feels weird about what happened or maybe has feelings towards me and doesnt kno how to react to what happened?
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That one is a hard call.
I did that in high school. I slept around more than I should have. I didn't mean anything by it, I just didn't have the self control to find a reason to say no unless I was in a relationship. And I had alot of opportunities outside relationships.
Then again, looking back, I was a selfish asshole. Some of the girls were just looking for fun same as I was at times, but some weren't. They slept with me hoping for something more, and I slept with them not really caring why they were sleeping with me.
That made me something of a prick before I developed a little self awareness.
Some part of him is pissed that he didn't get laid. I'm in a relationship of four years and live with her, and I STILL get a little annoyed when I act seductive and don't get laid. I think its a hardwired response in most guys.
Angry so you don't feel sad kind of thing.
My question to you, to ask yourself, why did he say what he said in the first place. To me, that sounds like a line. It sounds like he was testing you by talking about that new years resolution.
You and he are drinking. He starts talking about having sex with girls while drinking. You don't act disgusted or provide him with a negative reaction, so he knows that the idea of sex with him is at least not repellent to you. Its his "go ahead" singal.
So, basically, that entire thing could have been (and not to sound biased, but remembering the BS I've come up with in my time I think probably was) a complete load of bull shit designed to figure out from the start if you'd sleep with him.
Its hard to say. You've known him for five years and been talking alot for a year and a half?
His actions and reactions point to him being a dick, but the length of time involved makes me wonder.
You need to talk face to face so you can look him in the eye. See what his answers are and why. If he won't talk to you for a while though then stop trying, because if he were interested in you he'd chase you back.
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I think that he might be a little up set about you guys not doing anything.. Because usually when a guy trys to it means he wants to, & usually he gets what he wants. Well aparently that night he didn't get what he wanted, and maybe that's why he's a little up-tight. He's proably not used to being rejected or anything like that. I just think next time you hang out with him, that you being it up & talk about it, & not keep it inside you.
Hope I helped, Jasmina (:
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