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I need him out of my head
I'm 16/f, in 11th grade.
He is 17/m and in 12th grade.
This guy and I had known each other since the end of my 9th grade. After like 6 months, we started going out (like mid-10th grade), and then I was having problems so we broke off for a few months. Then we got back together. He was my first actual bf that I cared about and kissed. Then I was having more problems both within myself and family and for reasons I don't wish to share, I had to cut him out of my life.
I really miss him and I feel like he's my "first love" (yeah, call it cliche teenage love if you want). I can't get him out of my head and I want to but at the same time I don't want to forget about him. And my friend pointed out that guys don't wait around for girls and that he's probably out chasing other girls. And I don't know what to think.
How do I get him out of my head?
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The best thing to do is to not focus on what he's doing now, but if you think about him, think about the good times of the past. I obviously don't know what your situation is, but I can tell you mine and you can compare. I still really miss my ex sometimes (from over four years ago), even though it was me who broke up with him, and I didn't treat him very well either. I was an emotional wreck at the time while I tried to convince myself (and him) that he was the one I wanted to be with, right before I broke it off. He was my first love, and my first kiss; I'll always remember that about him, and I'll always feel the guilt and pain of leaving him. Anyway, I had to sit and sort out all of my feelings. I don't keep a journal, but writing everything down helped. Whatever you do, don't focus on him "chasing other girls." Whether he is or not is not important, unless you want to get back together with him; I'm assuming you don't, since you want him out of your head. Think about the ups of your relationship, and you are also allowed to cry over the end of a relationship. It might also help if when you find yourself thinking of him, concentrate on something really hard not related to him at all. You can use an image or run through a scene of a movie in your head. It will get you off track, and eventually, it will become habit. Know that you'll always remember him, but you'll move on and that's okay. Good luck and much love.
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So you want him out of your head because you don't want to think about him, but at the same time, you don't want to forget about him. I get what you're saying, and trust me, getting him out of your head and forgetting him are 2 totally different things. :] If you try to stop thinking about him, you won't forget him, you just won't picture him in your mind alot, yuh know? And it's going to take a little while to get him out of your head because he was in there for so long ... if that makes any sense, and certain things will remind you of him, like a song, or a lyric, or an image, or a movie ... etc. But you just have to keep yourself busy, for example: go out with your friends alot. you want to stay away from being cooped up inside your house for a while because being alone with your thoughts will immediatley go to him. dont get me wrong, you're going to need to think about him sometime, it helps you to get over it, and I know I must sound crazy right now, but that's how it goes. you have to get through the pain to know how to heal. And after a couple months you won't believe that he's coming up in your mind less and less. and then finally, you won't be thinking about him at all ... or just once in a while. but for a month or more, you should keep your distance from him, because re-occuring feelings might come out when you talk to him and you'll fall right back into the trap again and the progress that you WILL make will have gone down the toilet. yuh know? so you should write about it, get your feelings out, talk about it with the people you trust. and believe me, it works :] hope i helped ! good luck! xxo. :]] feel free to message me about how it goes :]]
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well, for me, it sounds extremely weird but i forced myself to think about it a lot and i realized i was better than him. but im not sure what your situation is. my ex that i was sure i was inlove with cheated on me with my best friend, my close friend, and the biggest slut in town. it all really depends on the situation.
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