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going farther....
okay heres the spill...hopefully you can help me out!!
I've been going out with my boyfriend, Jesse for almost 3 months now. He's really amazing and treats me so well! We've kissed and madeout but i want to go farther with him. Not all the way to having sex but farther than just making out. but he just rebels and doesnt want to. and i know he wants to respect me! but i just dont know how to let him know how to go farther! this is what ive tried...
we were watching a movie together and were holding hands i put his hand near my how do i say it privite area and he pulled his hand away. i know that he wants to respect me and my space but i want to go farther with him... and i dont want to just straight up be like i want to go arther with u cuz that would put me n a awkward position.
hope i put enough info in!!!
please give me some advice if you can!
i need it badly!!!
thanks in advance
-cuttechick24
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Make sure you know he's okay with going farther, contrary to popular belief boys have morals too!
If he's okay with it, the next time you're hanging out, you could put your hand on his upper thigh, near his private region, and you could try to initiate it and that would kind of give him the hint that it's okay to go farther.
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I know you don't want to straight up tell him what you want, but that's honestly the best thing that you can do. You need to talk about it because if HE isn't ready to go that far, YOU need to respect that. He respects you, but I can't tell how much you respect him. Your relationship is not about only your feelings, wants, and needs, it's about his too, and you need to consider that.
Maybe instead of saying "lets do this," ask him how far he's been before (don't ask for details--it could lead to a fight), or how far he'd like to go. I'll tell you this--being silent about what you want doesn't make anybody happy. If you talk about it, either he'll realize how much you want to do, and make you happy, or he might explain his side, maybe you'll be satisfied knowing his reasons for not going to far.
Communication is the key to a good relationship--not just the emotional part, but the physical one too!! Guys can't read minds, so give him a break and tell him what's on yours.
Good luck and much love!
~TD
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