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How do I act?
Hi, I recently just got my first boyfriend, and I really like him a lot. He went out with my best friend, who is perfectly OK with it, trust me. But, I'm not sure how to act. I am still being myself, obviousely. However, I feel like I'm acting more like a friend than a girlfriend. I just want to know how to act more like a girlfriend.
Thanks!
ps. we hav kissed..but have not made out.
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Your doing great. Being your self is a good thing to do and a boyfriend is supose to be like your best friend. You can tell him anything. Don't be shy around him. I cuddle with my boyfriend a lot like lay my head on his shoulder at stuff. just be your self
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Hey. You are certainly on the right track being yourself. No relationship based on pretending will be stable. Many fabulous relationships are based on friendship, and I personally feel that it is the most important part.
As far as acting like a girlfriend, don't force it. It could make you clingy...and a lot of guys can't handle that. The first part of a relationship can be awkward; don't worry--it's supposed to be. You are getting to know each other better, and both of you are evaluating the other.
Before you start acting more like a girlfriend, you might want to evaluate how you feel about the guy, and how you feel about yourself. I know that you said your friend is okay with you dating this guy, but make sure that you are comfortable dating someone your friend already has. If you are uncomfortable, or you feel guilty, you need to make sure that you won't change the way you act around your friend. Don't sacrifice a solid friendship for a boy.
Once you are comfortable with yourself, your friend, and your relationship, you can start acting more like a girlfriend than a friend. Figure out what you expect from a boyfriend. This will give you some clues about what kind of girlfriend you want to or will be. Your personality of course has a huge affect on this as well. Do you expect him to spend a lot of time with you or you are happy with a couple of dates a week? Do you think he should spend more money on you than you do on him, or do you think it should be more equal? Do you guys have a lot of activities in common, or do you enjoy having hobbies that are only yours?
You also should know what the guy expects from a girlfriend. The best way to find out is to straight out ask him, but it can be awkward, especially if you don't have lots of in-depth conversations yet. You can feel it out by picking up clues from him if you are good at reading people. You can also ask lots of little questions over a period of time--this can be less awkward than one big question and conversation. Maybe ask if he wants to go dutch on a date. Some guys are very traditional and won't hear of such a thing, while others like a girl that contributes money to the relationship. Note that neither is better, it just depends on your personality and the guy's.
Some farewell tips...be honest with yourself and others, always expect a man to treat you with respect, and treasure your good times!
Good luck!
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It will usually start out like that. You will only act as though your just really good friends, but it is the beginning of the relationship, you don't need to rush in and suddenly start being a significant other just like that. Let the relationship grow, and you will begin to develop it on your own.
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